For all those happy people out there, can you answer a question for me...?

Question

I am a generally unhappy person. I am wondering what qualities you posses that aid you in living a satisfying, happy life. Are you religious? Do you put others before yourself? Do you put yourself before others? Have you always been happy or have you learned how to be happy? What do you think makes you so generally happy?

Answer 1

I like to consider myself for the most part an optimist and mostly happy.

How do I do it? I think I'm wired that way. But, it's also in the way you THINK things.

I am not religious at all. I think I approach things give and take, when it comes to relations with people, although I enjoy giving much more. I don't put myself before others. I take care of them, but I also look out for myself and I had to teach myself not to be responsible for EVERYTHING.

I was once happy, lost that feeling and learned how to bring it back by finding the things that bring me joy.

But, I learned that it's in the process of how you think. If you think in a positive manner, rather than negative, you can change the chemistry inside yourself.

For example, if you feel overwhelmed with stress, you could say, okay, what is happening to me today? I have this going on and it makes me feel bad. What can I do to change this feeling? Instead of asking why, ask how.

It's very hard to think that way if you're not used to it, but with a lot of practice, you can get there.

Answer 2

I consider myself a Very happy Person.

I would have to say the thing that makes me the happiest is Music. Music can change your attitude in no time. When I put on a song I love, I basically leave this world and worries behind.

Another big thing that makes me happy is doing Random acts of kindness. As gay as that sounds, I dont care. I can't express the feeling I get from the satisfaction of seeing someone happier... as result of my influence (especially from someone I dont know). Basically, I enjoy the look on peoples faces after I go out of my way to help them... its priceless.

I am not religious at all. Never believed in a god or higher being, and confidently can say I never will. I enjoy spending my time, and utilizing my thought in something that has direct benefits. I could never see myself sitting in a dark room listening to some man preach to me from a thousand year old book (that seems depressing to me)... I am much better off strolling through the woods on hiking trail of some random mountain on a beautiful sunday. Sorry, that was kinda harsh/rude, but you asked if I was religious.

I have an awesome family, and I guarantee that has some influence on my happiness as well.
But aside from that, I think anybody can find happiness if they set enough time aside to do things they enjoy doing. Like hiking, listening to music, golfing, going shopping, or whatever. Theres plenty of hard times in my life; but I know I'll get through them eventually. And when I do, I'll be on a golf course or walking down some mountain laughing and smiling over the fact that I was actually stressing over something so insignificant in life.

Theres a little bit about my happiness.
Good luck finding yours...

Answer 3

well, im not exactly a happy person either. but i can say one thing that i have been told. you have to think of everything that is making you unhappy - is it your job? a friend who is not really a friend? not happy how your body looks?

Take those things that aren't making you happy, and turn them around. If you just aren't satisfied with your job, start looking for a new one. Been backstabbed by a good friend? Maybe she's not really your friend and you are better off without him or her. don't feel good about your body? make time to take care of yourself - take a yoga class, eat healthier...

I know that's what I need to do ... it's just motivating myself to do it.

Answer 4

I learned to believe in myself. I learned to depend on myself, and to push myself when I want to run and run and hide. I have learned that I have to change what I don't like about my life. I have learned to trust in G-d and Jesus, and that they answer prayers in their own time. Sometimes we think something is good for us, and we want it so badly, but we do not get it - I can not tell you how many times I have found out what "could have been" and how much worse off I would be if I had gotten that job or what ever it was. G-d knows what is best for us, better than we do, and yes, bad things happen, we have drawn out periods of struggle and despair, but the light of the Lord is always there, and you can't see it unless you geek your specs clean. Don't let the dark could your vision. Have faith in yourself, open your mouth and speak up for yourself, be tactful, no swear words. No one is going to take care of you but you. Believe that you can and you will. Believe that you won't and you won't. How many stories have you read, movies you've seen or songs you have heard tell you that very same message? YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE, believe in yourself and you will make it happen!

Answer 5

I am religious, but i am not hear to push my beliefs on you. But doing good things makes you feel all warm and fuzzy in side, and happy!! No one is happy their whole life, every one has the times in their life when there not. Also don't listen to depressing music or hang around depressing friends this will do nothing but make you depressed.Just live your life How you want to live:)
Good Luck and God Bless
Tay

Answer 6

i don't think no one is happy all the time. not unless they are taking some kind of happy pill. everyone has good days and bad days. when we have a good day make the best of it. if your not happy then you need to go do something that makes you happy. when i need to i put myself first, but not always, that would be self centered.

Answer 7

I try to make sure everybody around me is looked after & happy & that makes me happy !!
My girls go to school everyday & my husband has a clean shirt & full belly !!!
Ha ha it doesn't take much to make me happy does it !!

Answer 8

read the Art of Happiness by the Dalia lama it answered all those ?s