This serious I don’t know what to do... his problem with me is that I press the issue to much which leads to an argument. But I feel like, if he’s wrong he should know about it. I’m not going to wipe his face and tell him that everything is alright when its not.
But then that starts another issue of he can’t stand the confrontation with me.
Am I suppose to “let him think that he is right" all the time and how do I let him know that he was wrong and he not worried about confrontation?
What is a wife suppose to do?
2007-10-18 09:53:44 · 13 answers · asked by Miss Lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is called self righteous justification. Y do you have to be right? Do u want to be right or do u want to have peace? A true Godly wife is supposed to share with her husband what she truly believes is right for their best interest as a unit joined by God. She should tell him the truth and not be manipulative or controlling with her responses to her husband and not try to benefit from the answers that she gives to him in any way.
Answer him softly, tactfully, not like a bully, brashly or like one of the guys by being gangster or hoochie. A sof answer turns away wrath. Be virtuous. If he doesn't like your answer, or doesn't respond well, don't push the issue. Back away, pray and give him time to think about it. Most of the time, if you just give him that time, he will see it your way. He may come to you and say he is sorry and that he sees it your way. Therefore, you gain trust from your husband and he will confront you with more questions because he trusts his wifes' answers. Try Kingdom principles. Submit by praying that God will drop the answer into your husbands spirit.
2007-10-18 10:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by jack0120032004 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hear you, and I am going to offer my insight. And please know, I have my shortcomings too, so I am not trying to act all high and mighty but....
I'm not sure what types of arguments you are referring to when you say "he's wrong and your right" - but you sound like you have a strong need to make sure hubby doesn't think he's "right" - how come? If you feel that strongly about it - then I'm sure your husband is probably right - you probably DO push the issue and that can really infuriate someone. I would explore that part of yourself -
Second - What is the harm in you both having different perspectives? As long as you both have the end result in common - which is resolution, who cares how you get there - just get there... Resolution should be more important than being "right"
Third - Try just saying how you feel about something and then letting it go at that. Let HIM think about it and take his own action.
I mean no offense when I say this - but I keep coming back to #1 - why do you have to make sure he knows he's "wrong" - I think there is some glitch there with you, some underlying reason...maybe fear? What would happen if you didn't "make sure he knew he was wrong" - Deep down, are you afraid he will do something to hurt you or betray you??
Ease up girly... :) You are his equal partner, not his teacher.
2007-10-18 10:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wife needs to be supportive without being a doormat; she needs to be helpful without being a b*tch.
No, you are not supposed to "let him think he is right all the time" unless he is. You're supposed to be honest with him and yourself about who really IS right. When he is right, make sure he KNOWS that you acknowledge that. If you are right, make sure you speak to him gently and rationally. If the facts are on your side, he will come around, but if you act like an emotional roller-coaster or a bulldozer, he won't budge.
In marriage there should NEVER be confrontation. There is DISCUSSION. Talking. Communicating. As long as you are both acting like mature adults, there is never a reason for 'confrontation'.
2007-10-18 10:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for situations when he is right. Make a point to celebrate him being right. Express joy and excitement in his rightness. Build up his confidence in being right and that you not only acknowledge but also enjoy him being right. Then when there is doubt, he might be more secure to question himself. If a good support system does not work, then you two should seek some kind of counseling. If he cannot talk things out with you, perhaps a psychiatrist will be able to present the right questions or word question in a way where your husband is more open and willing to discuss.
2007-10-18 10:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
All husbands are special... so all other halves will probably be special... You will have to discover out what you husband likes... No do not simply ask him... do stuff... Like, if he had a protracted tough day at paintings... Try giving him a shoulder therapeutic massage or a again rub to alleviate a few strain... (the fewer strain the fewer anxiety and arguments)... If he comes dwelling from paintings watching flushed, hungry and worn out... take a look at solving his favourite meal... No, I'm now not pronouncing do that always... each as soon as in awhile.. Ask him how his day used to be... generally its well to speak approximately what occur at paintings to unencumber any paintings similar strain that would make dwelling lifestyles a residing HELL.... On the weekend, clutch a few take out... hire a film... cuddle in combination and watch the film... loosen up with him... Men like their egos stroked... So you do what you have got to do with a view to stroke his ego... You would additionally take a look at spicing up the bed room play time... Change from the common, each as soon as in awhile... Try new and fascinating matters... Examples of what i do: My BF works approximately 10-12 hrs an afternoon... I would possibly take him lunch or repair him his favourite meal for dinner and inform him to give up by means of earlier than he is going dwelling... as for the bed room play... I take the dominate roll every now and then...
2016-09-05 14:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by cyrstal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man, sound like my taurus at home, stubborn. most men want a harmonious home. learn how to talk to your man. learn the best times to discuss the worst things.
relationships are like a university you never graduate from, there is always studying to do, there are pass and fails but it all takes dicipline and communication.
learn also that dicussing something with your mate should never turn into an argument unless there are other issues not resolved.
who wants to be wrong or better yet, how were you so sure you were right? maybe he doesnt think he is wrong......
2007-10-18 10:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by badbitty101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeze, are you his wife or his mother? You sound very controlling to me. A few things you might want to think about are:
1- Pick your battles
2- Don't sweat the small stuff
3- You can be right or you can be happy, but you can't be both all the time
2007-10-18 13:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not listen to what Tom said. Women are not put on this earth to cater to mens every need. It is the year 2007. You both should be working. You both should share responsiblities. You both should respect one another.
2007-10-18 10:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
choose your battles- not everyting will be worth fighting because neither of you wants to be on eggshells with the otrher. My fiance and I sarted to feel like we battled everything- we were on eggshells, and we just felt like we couldn't get past any of our issues because they led to very hurtful things being said and done.....
we started to go to pre-marital counseling, and however cheesy it sounds- we are sooo much better at figuring eachother out- and whats expected of us as a married vcouple.
2007-10-18 10:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by **leigh** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to pick and choose your battles. Some things are worth a debate and some you just walk away.
2007-10-18 10:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋