her mom died. her dad works all night and comes home around 3 am. she has no brothers or sisters. she hates staying over there and spends most of the time at my house. all the sudden her behavior has changed. she is always down, she never wants to eat, she has lots of scratches and bruises, and i am getting suspicious. now i am thinking about no wonder she never wants to go home. could this be a possibility? how could she be hiding something from her best friend? thanks for your advice!
2007-10-18 09:39:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i think her dad is probably doing something. i just get that impression of him and her actions so maybe it's him.
2007-10-18 10:07:43 · update #1
Discuss this soon with an adult whom you trust. This is why we have best friends, to rescue us when we are in trouble. She may be in many different kinds of trouble. You are perceptive to have sensed her suffering.
2007-10-18 09:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you ask her, you won't know the cause of her change in attitude and appearance. Her bruises and wounds may be self-inflicted. It is difficult to know exactly what is going on without her input. There is a serious chance that the loss of her mother is affecting her and her father, and they are not dealing and coping as a family, they have pretty much isolated themselves from each other and probably everyone else. They probably just don't know how to deal with this sudden change. Perhaps the mom was the life of the household, perhaps they avoid each other to not be reminded of their loss. Many possibilities, but only they have the answers.
2007-10-18 09:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to being abused many people are so ashamed as if what is happening to them is some how their fault. Therefore, they are reluctant to talk to their friends and family. Or sometimes they may be threatened with harm or harm to someone they loves if they tell anyone. Or it could be that she doesn't think anyone will believe her. There many different reasons why one will not speak about it.
The best thing you can do if you suspect something is going on is to report it to a school counselor (if you are in school) or call the DHS and advise them of the situation. You may do both anonymously if you think you need to, but don't back out if you suspect even a hint of abuse.
2007-10-18 09:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by 2Dots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could most definitely be hiding something from you, but this isn't an easy topic to bring up. Maybe you could just ask why she never wants to go home? You can't push the issue though if she doesn't want to answer. Just be there for her and if you ever see anything with your own eyes- call the police.
2007-10-18 09:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by Heathers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am Asuming that you guys are very good friends becuase she is at your house alot, so why don't you ask her to spend the night or go get lunch and ask her about all the brusies and if she tells you nothing or gives you a boldfaced lie Just tell her you here for her if and when she wants to talk about it, DO not force her to tell you! If she tells you she is being abused tell a trusted adult(one that you both trust, your mom mabey)And tell her that her parents need help not her Because when your being abused, The abuser wants the you(the Abusie) to feel as if it is all your fault.
Good Luck and God Bless,
Tay
2007-10-18 09:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do your best to get her to tell you. tell her you wont do anything without her saying it's okay. tell her if she tells you maybe she could come live with you talk to your mother about it. save her if there's something going on that shouldn't be. it's her life at stake here. think if it was you help her
2007-10-18 11:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by jeannieboop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋