To make a long story short i have a daughter..... im 15 and the father is wanting to be involved but i dont want him to be. He filed me and my family with papers saying he wants to be involved and they proposed a option... and i disagree with it... i need to know my rights as a mother PLEASE HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! p.s i live in colorado just in case its diffrent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-18 09:37:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
OK SO A GOOD FATHER ... DRINKS,,, ******* HITS ME YEAH I REALLY WANT MY DAUGHTER TO BE INVOLVED WITH THAT REALLY I DO ... .. GOD NO THERE IS A DOCUMENT FILED ON HIM FOR BATTERY AND DOMISTIC VILENCE AND MORE. HE IS NOT A FIT PARENT!!!!!! HIS OWN PARENTS DRINK AND DRIVE FOR CRING OUT LOUD |DFSLKJFAKLDFJASLDKFJ
2007-10-18 09:54:21 · update #1
You are 15 with a baby?
Cripes.
Maybe this baby should be adopted?
You had at least 9 months to think about what life would be like with a baby - it never occured to you or your family that the father might care about it too?
Your rights are to negotiate the issues in private and present (I recommend an attorney) or to dothe same in public, in a courthouse.
I hesitate to mention it here, but even if the father is 15, you are entitled to child support for the next 18 years.
I predict an awful life for lots of people ahead!
2007-10-18 09:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Barry C 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 04:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got pregnant at 15? That wasn't such a good idea...
Anyway, the father has every right to be involved with his child. It doesn't matter if you hate his guts; he is the father and he gets at least half of the responsibility. If you don't like what he proposed, you go to court and to mediation and work out a parenting plan. Like it or not, he will be in your life because of the child for at least 18 years. Your rights as a mother are to make sure the father is also involved.
Edit: If he's a dork who drinks and whatnot, make sure you get an order that visitation is supervised by a responsible person.
2007-10-18 09:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Flatpaw 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know you dont want the father to be involved but he does have a right to be, unless of course he is a threat to your daughter. Try and be civil to him (that will also help any case you have) try and see it from his point of veiw (how would you feel if he wouldnt let you see her) Get someone to help you mediate between yourselves, who doesnt have personal feelings on the issue. I have friends who cant get their baby fathers to even visit their own child, because they just dont care. Your daughter's father does care, and I'm sure your child will be grateful for that even if you aren't. Whatever you do, get some proper legal advice on the matter. I wouldnt agree or disagree on any of it without the help of someone who knows the system where you are
2007-10-18 09:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by blunder babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to like the father lol heck, that is the way most single moms feel.
But, the father does have rights to see his child. If the court finds him fit to have rights to visit the child, then he can. You really can't do anything about it. The only way they would stop him from seeing your children is if the court found him to be an unfit parent.
Sorry but, im glad that someone his age is willing to step up and accept a responsibility like this. You should at least be happy for that.
2007-10-18 09:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by AngryFalafel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your right as a mother is to give a father rights too. He has the right to be involved in the baby's life as much as he wants too.
The only way I could think of to take his parental rights from him would being that he would be abusive to the child or some form like that.
As long as he wants to be in the child's life & he is paying child support, the courts will not deny him right to see his own child.
2007-10-18 09:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by bectasy2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need an attorney. Most states have specific laws regarding parenting. Therefore you should speak with a Colorado attorney for detailed answers to what seems to be many questions.
Don't panic. Just because he filed some documents does not mean he is trying to take your child away. He may only want separate parenting time. He will be ordered to pay support as well.
If paternity is at issue, he will have to prove he is the father. So there is along way to go before any contact will happen.
He may get charged with a felony since you are under age; probably 14 when you conceived. Therefore he may not want to push this.
2007-10-18 09:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by hensleyclaw 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You have rights, just as he has rights. You should be happy that he wants to be a part of her life. If there is a major reason why he shouldn't be inthe child's life, the judge will see that. However, you need to get a lawyer if it's that serious. Don't mess around with this.
2007-10-18 09:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be the babies mother and he has the RIGHT to file to be a part of HIS child's life.
The baby was not created solely by you and he has the same rights as you do. Time to grow up little one - you and this boy a connected for the next 18 years because of the life you created.
Wow - mention a father has rights and boom thimbs downville......what the hell people - you think that just because he has a penis he is only good for child support but heaven no he's not allowed to actually BE a parent. Daumn - no wonder men feel persecuted.
2007-10-18 09:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Susie D 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You cry about mother's rights, but he is wanting his rights as a father. You shouldn't have got pregnant if you didn't want to deal with him--the baby is half his. He is entitled to rights.
Of course, you would probably want him around when you want child support later on, right?
2007-10-18 10:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by Workcompguru31 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋