There is this guy that is married and we hang out with him and a group of people like every weekend. He is known to be a philanderer and is quite the playboy. I know him and his wife through my cousins and we have all been good friends but there is this problem that keeps occurring. Every time we party he hits on me at first i ignored it because he did while he was drunk but it happens every time every one is drunk. He doesn't hit on me when he is sober and everyone else is sober i mean he looks at me and talks to me but his tone and his actions change when we all start to drink. I have confronted him when him and i have been sober and he blames it on the alcohol. But he made a comment to me the other time saying he has always wanted to hook up with me and that made me think maybe it's not the alcohol maybe it's him. There is always other girls when we party and he never hits on them it's always me so is he lying when he says because of the alcohol or is it because he's a cheating jerk
2007-10-18 08:49:24 · 19 answers · asked by bella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only reason why i hadn't said anything to anyone is because i didn't know whether it was alcohol or his true feelings towards me, especially after i asked him about it and he always acted like he didn't remember. I didn't want to look like an idiot by mentioning something that happens at parties and i especially don't want to be the reason for problems between him and his wife. So now i don't know what to think or do? Please help!
2007-10-18 08:56:02 · update #1
Oh and is there any way that i can get a detailed answer instead of a short and vague one i kinda really need help on this one.
2007-10-18 09:50:42 · update #2
Most definitely. I'm WAY bolder when I'm inebriated.
2007-10-18 08:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by Han 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never understood, "I was drunk," defense. In my book, you're an adult; you're responsible for the amount of alcohol you consume and drunk or not you are still responsible for what you say and do.
When he is not drunk, you need to confront him again about his inappropriate behavior and/or remarks. Make it very clear that you don't appreciate it, don't have any interest and you don't mess around with married men. Let him know next time it happens not only will he get a knee in the jewels but you will also tell his wife what a scuz he is.
Good Luck!
P.S. If he is such a jerk, don't party with him.
2007-10-18 08:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who also does this. He is more free with sharing his mind when he is drunk because he isn't thinking about the consequences. I do think he has a thing for you. Think about what would happen if you did tell his wife, how would she react? She loves him and might not want to hear that he hits on another woman and will get defensive. It could make things wierd between you and them. I would privately tell the guy to back off, and if you want, tell him you "know" its because he is drunk. Hopefully he will stop.
2007-10-25 14:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by flower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can blame it in the alcohol but he is a cheating jerk who thinks perhaps you may have also had enough to drink to take him up on the chance to have an affair. Tell him if he does it again you are going to call his wife and tell her to tell him to behave. If you know her well enough, urge her to get some counseling so that she will get enough self esteem to know that she can do better than this guy and divorce him!
2007-10-18 09:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe it does. i don't fall for this excuse 'honey i was drunk!'
thats bullshit!
hook up with him, he might just show you a f**kin' good time!
ok, you wanted a longer answer, i think alcohol relaxes you enough to bring out your true thoughts and feelings. so i'm thinking the man is hot for you girl. question is are you hot for him? if you are go after him, make it clear as can be that you are ready for some fun. why not? we are only here for a short time and i firmly believe in if it feels good do it!
so honey, dress for him, meet him for drinks and let him have what he wants. its only wrong if you get caught! use protection!
2007-10-18 08:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by daddys.favorite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only out for a good time, stay away from him he is a jerk. He is also a cheater on his wife. I am surprised she did not kick him out long time ago. That man has no decency for his neighbour.
2007-10-18 08:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Chris B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts...
2007-10-18 09:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be that he can control his desire when sober and hopes you will let him in when drunk. If he's cute, give him a tumble if his wife says it's ok.
make him get permission first.
2007-10-18 08:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking doesnt bring out your true feelings....I think he is looking for trouble.....If he really had true feelings for you he would be acting the same when he is sober....Keep away from him
2007-10-18 08:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you have been so intoxicated which you probably did no longer comprehend who you have been chatting with and asserting. My pal grew to become into truly inebriated and ended up knocking out then wakened after a rapid time then have been given up and grew to become into gonna leave to this ladies residing house that she had to combat and her mom tried to end her from leaving and he or she grew to become into asserting the place are you ***** and while her mom grabbed her to end her from leaving she ended up entering right into a fist combat along with her. It grew to become into so loopy. yet perhaps like her you have been blacked out and grew to become into thinking of somebody else you hate it truly is why you reported that.
2016-10-13 02:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think drinking makes it easier for people to bring out their true feelings because then they have something to blame it on. that and most people do not care about their bad behavior when they are drinking.
2007-10-18 08:54:46 · answer #11 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋