How can I get my wife to stop nagging?

Question

I want to be nice about it, but she will tell me I'm doing something wrong, when she doesn't even have a clue what I'm doing!

Answer 1

You don't. You're supposed to date long enough to make sure you don't marry one of those.

You could buy a dog, and then have her take it to obedience class so the instructors will tell her not to nag the dog because the dog doesn't learn that way.

Answer 2

Seems like she insists on communicating with you on a certain level. And I guess she is not responsive to you in your attempts to bring the conversation into fairness? Sad to say, sometimes you cannot be nice even though that may be your preference.

Be strong and stick to your guns. When she nags, explain to her that she is nagging and that you will not cater to it. If she continues, show her by example how she is nagging. This will upset her and possibly cause the argument to escalate. That's fine; it's progress. After she becomes more upset, calm yourself back down. Explain to her that you were not wanting to nag her, but only to help her realize what she was doing to you. Ask her to try to see things from your end. She will likely still be frustated and not clearly understand your request. Give her time to calm herself down. Assure her that you will not nag her anymore, so she will not have to worry about it. Tell her that you are bothered by what you perceive as nagging and that it will never generate a positive response from you. Assure her that future nagging will result in you becoming more and more angry each time. It may take up to 3 or 4 times to convince her you are serious. But eventually, you will break her down. She will then seek out alternative methods of communicating with you. Be open to this; make sure to notice the signs that say she is willing to try something other than nagging. Show her what you want. Help her out. Do not tolerate any more nagging or else it will never stop.

Answer 3

Duct Tape will do it! Just kidding. I want you to read this through and then you might need to show her later.

A stranger was seated next to a little girl on the airplane when the stranger turned to her and said, "Let's talk. I've heard that flights go quicker if you strike up a conversation with your fellow passenger."

The little girl, who had just opened her book, closed it slowly and said to the stranger, "What would you like to talk about?"

Oh, I don't know", said the stranger, "How about nuclear power?"

"OK", she said. "That could be an interesting topic. But let me ask you a question first. A horse, a cow, and a deer all eat grass, the same stuff. Yet a deer excretes little pellets, while a cow turns out a flat patty, and a horse produces clumps of dried grass. Why do you suppose that is?"

The stranger thinks about it and says, "Hmmm, I have no idea."

"Do you feel qualified to discuss nuclear power when you don't know ****?"

Answer 4

When someone is telling me that I am doing something wrong and I know they know less about it than I do, I ask them to show me the right way to do it. Usually shuts them up pretty quick.

Answer 5

perhaps you need to learn how to communicate better with her. perhaps as you learn to communicate with her she will in turn learn how to communicate with you. the area is communication of which nagging is only a symptom. a counselor would be good to set some standards for you both. HER nagging is not a bad habit that you in your perfectness need to break. communication with each other is a skill you both need to DEVELOPE. if you simply break the habit of nagging than another poor communication area will replace it.

Answer 6

Your questions bring this to mind this question

Who do you let in 1st when the dog's barking at the back door
and the wife is barking at the front door.

The dog it will quit barking when it's inside

Answer 7

Walk away when she starts nagging. She'll get the picture soon enough.

Answer 8

Just FYI, I think your wife asked the question that's right above yours in the marriage & divorce section...

Answer 9

You can't. Nothing you can say or do will change her. When you were dating, you knew she was like this. So what makes you think she is going to change now?

Accept her for who she is and keep true to you marriage vows. As far as "for better or for worse" goes, this isn't so bad.

Good luck.

Answer 10

divorce her and live with a guy.

i'm sure she says she does it because she cares but i think it's because her mom nagged her dad and she thinks that's the way married couples should be.