Last night I totaled my brand new car my parents bought for me, and paid for, including insurance. I am an only child and am 16. I went to a soccer game without telling them I was going and on my way back it was dark and I was driving through a state park and wasn't aware of a curve, I ran off the road and bounced over some wooden railroad tracks and hit a pole. I was also driving a passenger and my parents dont allow me to have anyone in the car. I broke alot of rules, lying to them, having someone in my car, and driving not as safe as I should. I have never been grounded in my life until now and I dont know what to do. It's messing up my parents financial situation plus they have zero trust towards me now. I feel like total crap. I dont know what to say to them to express how sorry I am, how much I want to be cool with them again, and how much I'm willing to never ever ever do that again. Not to mention this accident happened on my mom's birthday :( I just dont know what to do.
2007-10-18 08:21:45 · 4 answers · asked by ---- 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I also am grounded for a very long time, unable to do anything with friends or my boyfriend, and I hate it. I'm not allowed to drive either for God knows how long. I hate this and I want them to know that I learned my lesson and that I can be trusted from now on.
2007-10-18 08:22:53 · update #1
there is only one way to show you can be trusted again, prove it. be trustworthy in every thing that comes your way. and accept your punishment. I know it's hard, and it sucks, but it's life, when you do something wrong there are consequences, and when you are mature, you just accept them, and move on. it won't be easy, but accept your punishment and keep it in your mind, to remind you of how you should always listen. and prove yourself trustworthy, no matter how little the task seems. little things lead up to big things, and if you keep being trustworthy in the little things you'll always be trustworthy in the big ones too.
and apologize to your parents, tell them you are sincerely sorry.
2007-10-18 08:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were 16 and given a beautiful new car that they probably sacrificed a lot of things that they wanted so you could have. Not only did you lie, you were speeding and you endangered not only the life of your friend but you have come very close to losing your own. Your parents request that you honor their rules and let them know where you were and not take passangers has probably shaken them to their knees. They undoubtedly feel that what they believed was an accurate assessment of your maturity was totally off base. If they placed that much faith in you, then they have to wonder what else they have been wrong about. I hope that they have the strenght to hold true to the punishment they have given . Yes , you were given adult privaleges, but you blew it big time andyou should have to serve the time and work really hard to rebuild the trust that you destroyed.
2007-10-18 15:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything you are saying is a really good start. You need to tell them how wrong your realize you were, how dangerous and stupid it was. You need to let them know that you understand why they are so upset and hurt and that you agree with them.
Take your punishment, even though it sucks, and don't complain. Go out of your way to be responsible do your chores, do your homework, bring up your grades, help around the house without being asked or expecting a thank you.
Let them know that you understand you have to earn back their trust and respect and you are willing to do what it takes to get it.
Once you have lost that trust and faith, it is hard to get back. So don't be in any hurry.
Take this time to really think about how your poor choices affected so many peoples lives and how dangerous and silly what you did was. Use this to learn from and you'll be a better person.
Good Luck. (You can do it!)
2007-10-18 15:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don"t you just cry in front of them and tell them everything you just put up on here?? - I think that is the best "sorry" Also know that they will trust you again. Just be sure to be very open about your feelings of crap and regret. I do not know any parent who does not listen to that. O.k hun?
2007-10-18 15:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by snowbunny360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋