I have been best friends with this girl for ten years. About a year ago her and her husband got into heroin. This past summer they hit rock bottom, they sold all their stuff for the drug, even the kids x-box and gameboy! Eventually social services came and took their kids away and it seemed to me that she didn't even give a crap! She even changed her myspace page from being "proud parent" to "love kids, but they're not for me" !
I don't want anything to do with her anymore, i have two kids of my own and we don't need to be a part of that messed up world. She thinks i'm a b**ch because i won't talk to her anymore. Do you think i'm wrong to not talk to her?She was in rehab and she says she is clean for two months now. but i can't get the image out of my head when i let my 7year old son stay at her place with her son for 3days last summer and when i went to pick him up they were running in and out of the house like nuts and she was locked in her bedroom(i know now what she was doing)
2007-10-18 07:36:03 · 6 answers · asked by Magik 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You did exactly right to drop her.
Druggies are toxic.
You don't want them around your family.
If she really is getting clean, you can deal with
her cautiously, but she's got to earn some trust
before you let her get close again.
2007-10-18 08:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Irv S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want this in your and your childrens' lives, you do not need to be friends with her. Be up front and honest with your feelings towards her, and why you feel that way. If she has been a great friend in the past, and she means something to you, perhaps the rift may be mended; but don't feel bad for protecting your family. You do what is best for you and your children.
2007-10-18 14:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by kerlyran 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No honey, you are not wrong for not wanting to be around that enviroment. You are not only responsible for your safety, but your kids as well. You're a good mom by choosing not to have your kids around drugs. Be there if she needs you to help her kick this habit, but for anything else; show her tough love.
2007-10-18 14:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Trixie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all.
You owe no duty of emotional support to her, and she is someone you no longer have feelings of friendship toward. You have no reason to fake feelings that aren't there.
Wish her well and cut her off.
2007-10-18 14:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your kids are the most important in your life. MOVE ON WITH YOUR KIDS AND WITH-OUT YOUR SO CALLED FRIEND. YOUR CHILDREN ARE NUMBER ONE
2007-10-18 14:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not wrong...tell her exactly what you think about her and her choices...sometimes thats what people need when they hit rock bottom.
2007-10-18 14:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋