2007-10-18 07:08:50 · 17 answers · asked by Adrienne D 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Give her more responsibilities and make her accountable for actions.
2007-10-18 07:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's one of those things kids have to learn for themselves. Eventually something bad will happen as a result of her irresponsibility, and she'll learn from it.
Teenagers are too stubborn to really be taught something like that from their parents... I know, cause I'm a stubborn teenager.
For instance, to get a teenager to stop drinking, which is going to be more effective? The teenager crashing into a tree and saying "damn... That's the last time I'll drink and drive...." or a parent saying "Don't drink! it's bad. If you do, I'll take your stuff."
Getting a pet to take care of, probably won't do much for a teenager. It's a good technique, for younger ones. My parents got me a dog when I was 15, it didn't do me a bit of good. It just gave me a new level of understanding as to how dumb dogs really are....
And the talking to her thing, isn't a surefire method. It doesn't always help.... Some teens are so rebellious, they would actually do the exact opposite of what their parents wish because.... they're rebellious. I know, cause I was the same way... Me and my brother. His landlord told him to fix his screendoor, so he ripped if off the hinges and hid in the bathroom with it. Teenagers are frequently the same way....
And I agree with snowbunny360, except don't force her to watch the news. Just try to get her to want to watch the news herself. Have conversations, but don't shove your opinions in her face. Listen to her opinions, state your own, just have a normal conversation as if you were just talking to a friend. I can guarentee that will work better than saying "But that's just wrong! You better not do that! some people...."
2007-10-18 07:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jesse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give her a choice. Be the tough parent. Take away everything. A mattress on the floor and a dresser with two outfits works great. Then she can 'earn' everything back over time. A hair dryer is a priveledge..so is a mirror. No I don't think I'm too harsh. If you want to try my 'tactic that works' good luck. You'll be hated but when you have a responsible great adults standing in front of you in 10 years you'll be thankful.
2007-10-18 07:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just by talking to her about serious topics , like sex and crime. She needs to be more Educated on the real world and what goes on around her. Have her watch the news and current issues programs like cnn or nancy grace. So many young teens are never educated about what goes on around them, and by the time they are in their mid-teens They are over-grown Children who only think in their own little bubble which lessens adult-like Responsibility. Also give her more responsibilites and tell her why and that you love her thats why you are giving her "responsibilities" And make sure she has consequences if she does not do them. Mainly just Educate her.
2007-10-18 07:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by snowbunny360 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put responsibilities on her that most parents usually do themselfs, have her cook dinner for herself, make her do her own laundry, if she wants to complain, tell her she needs to become more responsible and once she does you will start being a parent again. Or you could just give her a good ol' spankin'. And if she threatens to get the law involved tell her go ahead, that way she can see exactly how good she has it living with you.
2007-10-18 07:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You stop trying. Honest. But you also don't rush in to save her. If she won't do her laundry, she can wear dirty, wrinkled clothes to school. Believe me, the other kids will take care of the nagging for you, if you just let it happen.
Check out this website: www.loveandlogic.com It's my FAVORITE parenting website - it helps parents let kids learn from the NATURAL CONSEQUENCES of their actions.
At 14, you can't tell her ANYTHING (LOL, she's smarter than you, if you don't believe it, just ask her!!). So let the rest of the world do it for you.
2007-10-18 07:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give her more responsibilities. If she messes up take away something important to her i.e. ipod phone TV etc
2007-10-18 07:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to give responsibility to have responsibility. if you don't have her do chores around the house, it is time. take all of the stuff out of her room!
computer, phone, radio, games, tv...THEN send her to her room.
2007-10-18 07:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
mm responsible in what way
2007-10-22 07:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by spinklet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give them more responsiblities & trust them.Good Luck
2007-10-22 07:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋