I'm having another girl soI have alot of baby girl stuff but I liked the party. So would it be rude of me to want to have another? My daughter is only 8 months old.
2007-10-18 07:03:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You can do whatever you want, of course.
However, I think having a second shower, especially so close to the first one and for a baby of the same gender, would give the appearance of being greedy, materialistic, or shallow. Some (many!) people may be offended at the idea of being asked, albeit in the guise of a party, to finance your second child.
I don't blame you for wanting to celebrate the birth of your baby, however. Have you thought about having a christening, blessing, or baptism party once the baby gets here, rather than a shower? That way, you can leave it up to each guest to determine what, if any, gift they bring. A gift is, by it's very nature, a voluntary gesture on the part of the giver. To imply that you are requesting or expecting a gift in any way (which is certainly implied by the term "baby shower"), negates the "voluntary" part of the transaction and turns the "gift" into a sort of "friendship tax."
Another alternative is to do as someone else suggested, and donate baby items to a local homeless shelter, battered women's center, or hospital nursery. Either of these options would be a classier, more elegant way to celebrate the birth of your new baby.
2007-10-18 07:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Poopy 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Let me just say, that anyone who says that having another shower is stupid, IS stupid... The point of baby showers is to help the parents prepare for their new baby. Whether it's for the first, second, third, etc. I had showers for all three of my children- all thrown by different people, and all my kids were 29 months apart. It's a kind gesture for people to give gifts when someone has a baby. Besides, the first baby is the easiest to buy for... That's when we had money and time to plan for the new baby- by the time you have baby #2, or 3, that's when you need help getting the items you need, the most. It's not at all rude to want another shower, just have someone else throw the shower. And if it's the party you want, get all the girls back together and have a "Girl Party", and if anyone wants to bring a gift, since you already have tons of girl stuff, request diapers. People understand, and if they don't- when they have children of their own they will... Congrats on the new, and older baby : ) and Good luck!
2007-10-18 07:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
My daughter is 2 1/2 years old and I'm 13 weeks pregnant and my sister says I should have another baby shower no matter if it's a girl or boy, but definitely if it's a boy. It won't be as big as my 1st baby shower but why not. I know a woman with three girls and she had three baby showers. P.S. I was thinking of having a diaper shower (everyone bring diapers, if I'm having a girl). That would rock!
2007-10-18 07:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by Precious 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Since this baby will be close in age to your daughter, I suggest instead of having a traditional baby shower before the baby is born you have a Welcome Party for the child after she is born. At a welcome party the focus is on the Baby and not on the pregnant mom...People will more than likely bring gifts for the little one such as clothes, toys, diapers, etc.
2007-10-18 07:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by JesJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually could care less about etiquitte and baby showers. We are in the freakin' 21st century, not 1858. Some people, you wil find out, by posting this question are real freaks when it comes to baby showers..........
I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH CELEBRATING THE LIFE OF ANOTHER BABY.
Even if you said no gifts.....just want to celebrate...people will buy gifts.....
2007-10-18 07:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by BlueBlue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, most people I talk to think its tacky.
But if someone offers, have at it.
One suggestion might be, since you have a lot of the girl stuff, is to have a diaper party where people give diapers and wipes and if they want they can bring clothes or something else you request etc.
2007-10-18 07:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by tw9165 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
have only your close friends and family come and do not ask for gifts, just come for fun and games!
unless if there is something that you need, make a small registry just in case but don't push it on people. alot of people get gifts for the baby after they are there anyway.
uhh.. if you ask for diapers...please make sure everyone get's different sizes so you don't have too many newborn diapers. and make sure you have room to store all those diapers! gift cards would be better
2007-10-18 07:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by blank 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is an old rule in my family that you only get one shower for the first baby, but people are having showers for second, third, sixth baby all the time.
Enjoy!
2007-10-18 07:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by A***n G 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You could have the party, but ask the guests don't bring gifts. Maybe make it a Diaper Party, where all the guests bring diapers or wipes?
2007-10-18 07:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by BoomerFamily 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, if you want one, have one. I don't see why not. If you have everything you need because you already have one little girl, have a diaper party. So instead of people bringing blankets and clothes, they bring diapers!! You can never have enough.
2007-10-18 07:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋