Can't men except the fact that we want to be on equal levels?

Question

For centuries we have been treated unfairly. We have really only in the last 40 years or so been able to become employed full time with benefits. Do men really think we should stay home and not have a choice, or are they amazed at what we have accomplished so far and feel threatened some how? It seems that a lot of men I have spoken too don't like the fact that a women can be independent without them. They no longer can control our lives and sexuality. We can be anything we want. Do some men feel a loss of there ability to bring home the money and control our lives? Do they think that their mothers don't deserve the same advantages as them? We want to make our own money and make our own choices. Is it really that hard to let go of the control they once had?

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Answer 1

Equality is not the problem. It's the whole special priveliges part that's the issue. You cannot have your cake and eat it too.

There is no denying that men and women are different in some ways. If you want to be treated equally, then you must expect the bad with the good. It's a package deal. No cherry-picking.

Answer 2

Well for starters let's get you some facts. While women were chained to the sink men were chained to the plow so no inequality there. At the same time women could not vote neither could most men so no unfair treatment there. When the feminist movement began it had a lot of male supporters who helped out financially and walked picket lines with women so no unfair treatment there. And men don't want women to be oppressed that is just more false hysteria because if men did want these things we could get them. So these hysterical arguments that men want to keep women in the home and silent is obviously a load of BS. If there was a patriarchy you still wouldn't be able to vote or work outside the home the fact is that men want equality for women. What we don't want is for women to become the oppressors and that is what the radical feminists are pushing for by getting women all hysterical about things that have no basis in fact. By the way your remarks are just as sexist as what you claim to be fighting against.

Answer 3

When you learn to use the correct spelling of the word you intended, then maybe you can have the acceptance you seek. What if real men are genetically designed to protect and look after their tribe? Are you asking men to do something that is not in their nature? Does that make you just like someone who gets mad at a person without any legs for not walking fast enough? Do you think the number of single parent homes could be related to female independence and that the children are the ones paying the price for these lofty goals? Maybe, your right. I suppose the price paid in childrens lives is worth your selfish denial of thousands of years of a system that has kept our species alive for this long.

Answer 4

Since I have 2 good legs like Ben Johnson and with enough training, I *may* be able to run as faster why cant you guys except the fact that I should also be a champion runner? I also have a face and I *may* be able to act like Julia Roberts and make a lot of fans. Why cant you guys except the fact that I am a celebrity and I should be paid like Julia Roberts?

Women are yet to show they are equal to men in all fields of life. They sure have the capabilities and there is no dobt about that.

Come back when you show an equal strength in power, politics, family finance management, and various things in life and everybody without any doubt will except you equal in that particular thing in life.

For example, expatriate people from India living in America shows an equal or stronger position in IT related jobs, medical jobs etc and they ARE excepted as equal or better in these jobs. They may not be able to show equal strength when it comes to sports or politics or hollywood and nobody expect people from India to be exepted equal when we are talking about American Football, until they prove their worth in that game.

Answer 5

Some of us just resent the heck out of being told that because the tiny minority that wields most of the wealth and political influence happen to be men, that all of us have "power" even when most of us feel pretty damned powerless. And some of us resent being told that, because so much violent is perpetuated by a few worthless scum, most of whom are men, all of us are defective and untrustworthy. And we resent the heck out of it when any difference of opinion gets turned into why men are bad.

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Sarah, you don't know 'the difference between you and I". You don't know me. I don't know you. Don't presume to judge.

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I have the decency to recognize that I, as a black man with an engineer for a father and a psycho-therapist for a mother, may have MORE advantages than a white man raised by a single mother who was addicted to drugs.

I don't presume to judge people based on simple dichotomies of male/female or black/white

Answer 6

What ever happened to a man being a man and a women being a women. Men and women have seperate roles in society. In my opinion it should stay that way. I can't understand why liberal woman try to change what's been going on for ever. I'm not saying a women shouldn't work, but whatever happened to tradition.

Answer 7

I think most men accept and support the need for gender equality. The people who are really opposed to this are the religious right and the crusaders of housewifery.

Answer 8

I think most men have accepted that women have equal footing with them, and are happy to not have to be solely responsible for being the breadwinner, etc.

Don't be so hard on the guys and give them a break.

Answer 9

For centuries men were responsible for women's care, nourishment, income, safety, shelter, etc.

Now we're accountable for your powerlessness, marginalization, and malcontentedness?

You're not centuries old and neither am I, so I don't blame you personally for "your" complicity in the former arrangement. (I will for your refusal to acknowledge it, though.) Just don't hold MY feet to the fire when you find you're dissatisfied with the current one.

Answer 10

I'm fine with it. But maybe the laidback brethren aren't the ones that are continuing with the subjugation.