Should i leave my husband?

Question

My husband cheated on my 5 years ago and had a baby, I forgave him, but now he is acting secretive esp with his cellphone, and his email account, i use to have the password but now he changed it. I have asked him countless times if he wants a divorce but he says no. I also set up an email account with a fake name and emailed him as if i was intrested in him so he emailed me back and gave me his cellphone number and told me to call him during work hours so his wife(me) wouldnt find out. I have been married for 7 years and we just had a baby 5 months ago. help is he cheating again or am i just jumping to conclusions

I want to set up a date to meet him but i said i lived in another state. But im really feeling like i should just tell him that i know hes email other women and possibly talkin to other women on the phone. THe only thing is that it hard to determine who hes converstating with because hes in the army and has soliders calling him all the time.

Answer 1

I say no don't leave him. The reason being is that when you got married you said "for better or worse" this just happens to be part of the WORST. I know first hand that it is hard to handle, but you have to PRAY to GOD for your marriage . You need to think of your child before you go listening to everybody saying "leave him". Our children are the next generation, if we keep scarring there poor hearts and minds what kind of future will there be? Take your problems to the ONLY one who can really help you JESUS and GOD. HE loves and can mend your marriage if you just trust in HIM. I will be PRAYING for you . GOD BLESS YOU.

Answer 2

If you have to asked your self if your husband is cheating 9 out of 10 he is. Follow your woman inter wishing it never fail us as women. That e-mail you sent him spoke volumes and confirm that he still cheating by telling you to call during his work hours. Come on wake up and smell the coffee. If he cheated on you once, and got a baby, what makes you think that he will ever stop because you took him back after the first time. You need to put your foot down and show hubby you are serious and you not going to be taken for granted. You deserve respect and the only way you gonna get it, if you demand it a 100%.

Answer 3

I really like a lot of the responses you got about making a date with him over email....but....be sure you have shared the emails either with a trusted friend, maybe more than one, and a lawyer before you make the date. Then show up with witnesses to the plan and the date. File for divorce, get as much as you possibly can, not out of bitterness but just because you deserve it; he is the one who broke the commitment and the trust and hopefully he didn't give you any std's, but you better have yourself checked out. Then give yourself time to grieve the lost marriage. Then, move on and make a better life for yourself. You can do it.

Answer 4

Trust your instincts. If your asking I'm sure you already know the answer. You've already emailed him...call him on it literally...follow his request and call him on his cell during work hours and let him know it was you that emailed him. He's going to be angry but don't let him turn his indiscretions around on you. He may not want a divorce but he isn't honoring your marriage and that's wrong. Get out before your baby is old enough to really feel the battle going on.

Answer 5

When you ask the question: Should I leave my husband? you give the answer. Of course, leave him. Don't wait till you are too old to start a new life. Do you have a job? If not, get one. And you have proof of his cheating, so your divorce will be easy to get. Believe me, it is better to leave now than later because the issue is inevitable. Good luck. Keep on Y/A for encouragement.

Answer 6

get to looking your best and wearing sexy clothes and then start "hangin out with the girls" a little more and make him jealous. Have a guy(s) call the house and then just say that he's just a friend you know. Guys are territorial. When they think another guy is going to take his woman...they will change behavior because they don't want to lose to some other guy.

Answer 7

Yes he is or he is in the market to .... I would say it is time to leave..... I know it is very scary especially with a new baby... But for your peace of mind and a healthy mommy for baby you have to take care of your self....And when you are always trying to figure out what you cheating husband is doing... That doesn't leave enough time for you and baby.... Don't let this creep rent too much time in your head.... Move on.... Good luck kiddo

Answer 8

Sounds to me as if he is cheating. And you have all grounds for divorce if he is. However, now that you have a child you may need to give this some deep thinking. Who will support who, where will you live, visitation rights and so forth. Lots to think.

Answer 9

I'd dump him. He's lying. He's into online dating and clearly seeing other people.
The fact that you are sneaking around to "catch him" is so bad for you.
He's cheating. He cheated once that you know of.
I can tell you from experience, once a cheater, always a cheater.
You and your child are better off without someone who's so dishonest.
Yes, it's hard to leave, but you're better than that. You deserve more.

Answer 10

Of course he is cheating and of course he does not want a divorce. He wants his cake and to eat it to. If you leave him, his standard of living will go down the tubes when he has to start forking out child support and maybe even more. That's why he doesn't want a divorce.