This is the strangest thing.
There's an office "clique" and I finally realized that she is actually embarassed of me at work and doesn't want anyone to know we're friends. I'm not normal in that I'm a divorced single mother of two and I'm the black sheep at work. So the clique generally turns their back on me because I don't have money to spend like they do.They never invite me to their group lunches, always dump the crappy odd jobs on me to handle and are only nice when they need something.
I expect it from the cliques, but not from her. Do I confront her or just start keeping her at arms legnth? She's a step above me on the corporate ladder and I don't want to create any waves....
2007-10-18 05:33:33 · 6 answers · asked by tilley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dont confront her and put yourself in the spotlight. Its not worth it. Kill them all with kindness! Be professional. Speak, say "Good morning and all that". Do your job duties and know how to say no when they ask you to do something you are not comfortable with. For example say " I have several other tasks on my plate right now, maybe I can help you some other time! Also take your lunch or plan your lunch with a friend or even go home if u can. You dont have to wait on them to invite u. Feed yourself. You are a grown woman and if they dont want a friend that has been there and done that and can teach them a thing or two about life since you are a mother, and divorcee then forget them altogether.
2007-10-18 05:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sharen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep with her, don't dump her if just for the sake/fact that she is higher up than you.Actually those are the main type of people that you would want to be friendly with. Some people do it all wrong at work by being outgoing and friendly only with equals or lessers. She probably truly likes you and enjoys your company. You would not want to disappoint someone like that. I know she disappoints you. But you are lucky to have her. Everyone has quirks and problems with their personality that is just one of hers. Don't throw all of her away just because you'd rather do without the bad parts of her. I have a boss that seems to treat me that way too sometimes. But then she is always sending me emails about glad to have as a friend. And I really like her alot too. It's all about if you like that person enough to put up with them. I also work with a co-worker who has anger mgt problems and I am always having to forgive her.
2007-10-18 05:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by SpayNeuterRescueEducate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that I would necessarily confront her if she is in the position to be able to make your work life worse. However you cannot just let people treat you like this. I would keep things strictly professional. She will get the message after you are politely kurt for a few days.
2007-10-18 05:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jami W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is nothing to have problems with. Forget about that clique. You don't need them. There are plenty of people who are in the same situation as you are. Just do your job and slowly remove this person from your social life. You don't need her. Good luck.
2007-10-18 05:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by AF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's happened to me before. I would just not be friends with her. If she's rude to you at work because she's embarrassed by you, chances are even though she's friendly when no one else is around, she doesn't truely care about you. I would ignore her at work and after work as much as possible. I would be civil, but I wouldn't cultivate that friendship.
2007-10-18 05:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isn't a real friend and how pathetic is it that people still do this crap after high school???? let her keep you at a distance but as you said, don't screw with your survival either.
2007-10-18 05:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋