ive been in love with this girl for 4 years. and i want to tell my family but i dont know how to and i dont know if they will except me. i need advise!!! help!!
2007-10-18 05:16:48 · 13 answers · asked by person 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well you need to ask yourself why you want to tell your family. Is it because you want to bring this girl around more? Do you want to display affection while the family is around?
Telling your family is a very hard thing to do, trust me I went thru it. Think of it this way, your parents don't tell you about their sexual preferences and what not, why tell them yours. It is between you and your partner. If you do plan on telling them, don't do it at a family event or in a group. Address each family member individually. That way if they have any questions or concerns they don't feel like they have the spotlight on them as if they were in a group.
Let me know if you would like to talk.
Best of Luck to you.
2007-10-18 06:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by tigerwoman_28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit them down and explain the whole situation to them. Most families are willing to accept this, but yet again others may detest it. This all depends on your family's openness to differences. Sooner or later, they will need to know who you really are and I don't think you should try to hide it anymore. Really people shouldn't fear telling their family things like this, but it is more understandable to those who have families with old fashioned values or those that are not sure how their family will react. The best way to ease this from your mind is to explain to them this is who you love and she happens to be female. Nobody can help who they fall for and it wasn't a lifestyle that was chosen, but rather how you really truly feel. Hopefully they will accept you, after all this is your family and I don't think they are going to deny you just because you happen to be in love with a female. Good luck to you.
2007-10-18 12:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people choose to come out bi-sexual, since it still gives hope to people that you not gay...but also implies that you're only part gay, which somehow appears "not as bad". Just experience talking here...but what most in this situation are really trying to do is simply say "I'M GAY!" Do this in your own time....there's no rush and being completely honest will leave no room for confusion in the future
2007-10-18 12:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by DESPERATELY SEEKING SANITY!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just went through this with a family member.
Just tell them... chances are they already know and are waiting for you to say something. If they are your family they will love you. love is not conditional. and if it is, then you are better off without them. Pick good friends who love you and surround yourself with people who DO love you.... Good Luck
2007-10-18 12:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by T-pot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, why do you need to tell them? Some things in life don't necessarily need to be shouted to the world at a moment's notice.
If you are involved with this girl, the continue to do so. Eventually things will come out by themselves. No need to force it out there. Take your time.
2007-10-18 12:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
try telling your friends and see what happens if the reaction is what you want then tell your family if the dont except you at least you know your friends do
2007-10-18 12:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by bigboi91234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stand tall and just say " I'm in love with another girl i dont care if u can accept me but i love her" OK tell me if it worked i said the same thing to my parents and it worked!!! by the way names aaron
2007-10-18 12:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by hentaifreak101 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, don't till until you are ready you said it for yourself your bi it sound like your not sure which way you really want to go I had that same problem..until I experiment with both at different date I realize that I really like girls.I am more man then anything pretty but not nice.(hee hee hee)I repeat don't tell until your ready. until you know fore sure that is who you really are good luck.....
2007-10-18 12:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by Alanta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scuba Dude is right! Why tell now? Don't put yourself under pressure...take your time and see what is going to happen....
2007-10-18 12:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean they'll be sorry to hear that one day they might end up being "real" grandparents? Don't worry about it, tell them.
2007-10-18 17:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by robert43041 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋