i've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and he hasn't asked me so i thought i would ask him? he's been married before and we talk about it but i think he's not ready yet. do you think i should wait or what ?????????? please help
2007-10-18 04:57:45 · 13 answers · asked by roxy77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I did and we were married Sept. 30, 06... 2 1/2 yrs after we met... VERY HAPILY MARRIED!! And now expecting a baby in Jan. Couldn't be more thrilled...
2007-10-18 05:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by hollar!!! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt I did it last December and he said yes but never made any plans with me to really make any arrangements to do it and he never would wear his ring so I just got the idea that he really didnt want to. Even so, I think it is the responsibility of the guy to purpose anyway, and just think of how happy you will be when he does! I think its more romantic that way. Good Luck to you girl, If I were you I would make the subtle hints first like leaving wedding ring/engagement ring advertisments out on the coffee table or kittchen table, saying what rings you like. Then you can have a talk with him about your strong desire to get married and your wondering where he stands. You may have to give him the ultimatium that your over if he doesnt but a lot of people disagree with that. By the way I'm still with the same guy 5 1/2 years later I still dont have a ring but I can say that we broke up about a week ago and he kind of asked me in a text message he's like, "I know how important getting married and having a baby is to you and after 5 years I want to. I miss you and am devistated without you. I love you." I waited a day before meeting up with him but we did and he even moved back in with me about a week and a half later still no ring so I confronted him and he said that he has every intension of doing it and were even starting to make plans to get married in Las Vegas, (I was married once before and I had a real wedding so I want to go this route this time) although I have to admit it still doesnt feel right without the ring. He said that were not going to Las Vegas until Feburary so he thinks it can wait until then. I even feel stupid for getting back with him and letting him move back in without the ring, now its probally never going to happen and thats what I told him. He disagreed but I doubt it. If you wanna email me you can and we can talk about it more if you want.
2007-10-18 05:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by juniper555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is long enough for him to make up his mind. Let him know that you want to get married. If he doesn't make plans to marry you within the next 6 months, drop him. A guy like him will string a woman along for years, or until he finds Miss Right. The fact that he's been married before is not your problem. Life is too short to play games. If he's not going to marry you, don't waste anymore time on him.
2007-10-18 05:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask him why he hasn't proposed and discuss where your future is going. He may never ask you if he is afraid of getting into another marriage and you may end up waiting the rest of your life for something he will never be ready for. He has to be the one to ask, since he waited this long and hasn't, because there may be issues he has to deal with first before making a commitment to you.
2007-10-18 05:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friends mom become going out with this guy for 5 years. She requested to marry HIM in the front of seven-11! HA! shes an exceptional woman. yet about 2 years in the past he fell off a ladder and previous away.
2016-10-21 09:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did and we are getting married at the end of the month. And when I asked him we'd only been going out a year or so. Next month will be our 7 year together. So good luck and best wishes!!!!!!
2007-10-18 05:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ivan and Marko's momma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think he's ready, give him a little time. If you think that the engagement can be stretched out long enough to wait until he's comfortable, go ahead and ask. Nothing's stopping you but you.
2007-10-18 05:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait. If he's not ready, then you don't want to rush him. Guys are sensitive- Believe it or not! It seems to me like he's waiting for just the right time. He wants to catch you off guard. Just give it time and before you know it..... WEDDING BELLS!
2007-10-18 05:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by ♥bRoKeN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any harm in you asking him to marry you. If he really love you enough and want to be with you. Go for it!!! good luck...
2007-10-18 05:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. when he's ready and if he really loves me and wants to be with me for the rest of our lives he will ask me. if i were you wait. help him resolve his issues with his previous relationship. maybe if everything's ok he'll ask you.
2007-10-18 05:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by isla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋