Do you ever feel that people want you to feel like crap???

Question

Have you run into a work environment that wants you to be seriously up beat?

Do your friends and family want to see you happy?

This question is more linked with intuition than personal action. And an empathic person at times has no choice than to feel what is going on around them.

So can you feel the environment around you? Are people putting out the energy to make things seem negative?

I didn't ask for a lecture.

Answer 1

All the time.
I am a very positive person because I enjoy laughing more than crying. Some people feel that they are doing you a favor if they help you feel like they do, which is miserable. It is kind of messed up, but I have found that these feelings are their burden and not mine.
The only way for them to get to my level is for me to lower myself to theirs.
Stay positive and in the long run, these people deserve your pity more than you ire.

Keep smiling.

Answer 2

Misery loves company, miserable people try to make you just as miserable as they are so they feel better about themselves. I work in a environment that I created as a fun, happy place where we joke, laugh, cut up, and try not to let the stress of work get in our way of having a good day. Sometimes people get down. We spend more time interacting with the people we work with than our own families, so we need to help each other along some days. I try hard to create new and fun things to build morale inside the company. We have fired workers before for being grouchy crab azz non team players.

Answer 3

Some people are negative, listen to how they talk and that's all they focus on, they draw people in. Other people are positive, they are the kind you want around. As for the work environment, yes I have found a few places that fit in with that frame of mind, depends on if they just want you to be and are faking or they are natually upbeat and positive.

I think most family and friends that have your best interests at heart want to see you happy.

Answer 4

I have had ppl that wanted me to feel like crap. I was always smiling at work and I give 100% customer service all the time [considering it was McD I had to.] Well one boss loved to just wipe the smile right off my face with her mean, fat a$$. Eventually, she got fired and was banned from working at McDs again. I never found out what she did but oh well!
HAHAHAHA!
Oh- and my friends want to see me happy but I don't think my family does... ever..

Answer 5

I believe that MOST people do not care one way or the other how I feel. We are so focused on our own stuff that we have little regard for others...we all have are own agendas. I have met some people who seem genuinely interested in how I feel...they are people who are like minded, sharing similar goals (including recovering from the effects of someone elses drinking), people who love me in a way I can relate to. Simply put, they want what is BEST for me...they do not actually KNOW what is best for me but trust that I am led by the God of my own understanding. They dont try to make me in their own image but respect where I am with grace. They are at peace within their own skin and are freely able to accept others as they are.
Then, there are those who, for any number of reasons, feel so uncomfortable in their own skin, they attempt to drag others down with them. They have been discussed in other posts.
'What I know to be true for me today is that no one else can MAKE me feel anything I dont want to feel. I get to choose how I respond to those who love me and those who dont. Frankly, I have no time or energy for the ones who do not love themselves enough to respect others. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. I, too, associate with people who I believe have made peace with their pasts, feel comfortable living today and look toward a bright future. My time here is limited and I dont want to waste it with negative energy.
As for work and being upbeat...YES....it is necessary to be upbeat (at least act it) in certain jobs..particularly when dealing with the public. Can you imagine how many things you'd buy from a gloomy salesperson? Upbeat and enthusiasm go hand in hand....wonderful traits or characteristics to be around.

Answer 6

When I worked in retail, the managers always had this really cheesy, fake positive attitude. It was really annoying.

Most of my friends want to see my happy. I guess I should clarify...my GOOD friends want to see me happy. I have a toxic friend that really enjoys when others are miserable. It's kind of sad.

All of my family wants me to be happy, and vice versa!

Answer 7

The problem here is jealousy: there's no doubt, in fact, that people show their sympathy only when you are in a difficult time. It's easier for them to be friends. When I had to get married, for example, I was very happy, yet some friends of mine couldn't be happy for me and wasted their time saying not-so-nice things to me. That experience showed me who were the real friends, the ones who were happy for me no matter how their life was going in that moment!

Answer 8

If your work and family environment is picking up on someones negative sense wise vibes,and who my suggest as you suggest-upbeat,and happy...Then i'm tended to think there may be issues within that person,that others may be trying to help.

Answer 9

Sometime it just the nature of people to put down others who they are threatened by...which is usually people who are doing much better in life than themselves. If this is happening to you...it's probably a jealousy thing, regardless if it's family, friends, or co-workers. Just stay true to yourself...in the end you are obviously doing something right! Trust Me!

Answer 10

They told me at work I need to be more up beat, I told them to f off I have a job to do. I think my family and friends want me to be miserable because they make me feel that way.