Okay my fellow "baby fever" obsessors! How do we get it off of our mind?

Question

Here's my situation: My husband and I were married 5 months ago. He's not ready for kids, but I am. Out of respect for him, I'm still on birth control and taking them just as they're meant to be taken. However, if I became pregnant accidentally, I would be overjoyed and so would he. He just doesn't want to plan for it yet, because he's not ready to give up our newlywed life.

For weeks now I've felt pregnant. I've had every pregnancy symptom in the book, but numerous pregnancy tests and a doctor visit later have shown otherwise. The thoughts consume my days; I'm just sure I'm either pregnant or dying(lol) because my body has never felt like this. It's almost like my body is morphing before my very eyes.

My question is how are you dealing with it? Have you ever just felt so "off" but it wasn't pregnancy? If so, what was it? Curse you, biological clock!

Answer 1

All I can guess is your worried about your age (biological
clock) How old is too old in your mind's eye I don't know.
I was born to my mother when she was 42, and that was 75 years ago!--------Two years ago my lady friends daughter had
beautiful twin girls at 51!!!!! after many years of going to doctors. we thought she was too old, just because of energy
to care for them etc.------------Any way, Being married 5 months is a short time to be obsessed and anxious to have a baby, and maybe that is what is turning your husband off.
Take it a day at a time relax and let it go, the more energy you put into these feelings will only be up setting to you both,
Certainly when the time is right you will have a baby in your arms, and be surprised how much a little one can change your life style, good luck--------Blessings

Answer 2

It's called a "false pregnancy" and is a mental health issue. I would suggest you go to an orphanage and volunteer to take care of the babies for three weeks or go to a hospital and volunteer to take care of babies for a few weeks. Change the dirty diapers and bathe the kids and get no sleep for weeks on end. Then remember, if any one or more of those babies was yours, that would be your life. Furthermore, you are responsible for those children FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. It's not like a puppy that you can give to the pound or give away. It's a child that will make demands upon your life, your time, and your budget. You'll be lucky if you can find 5 minutes alone with your new husband when you have a baby. When you think about it "IN REAL LIFE" instead of your dream life, it becomes a whole new ball game. If that doesn't kill your desire, it will at least dull it.

There will come a time when you'll both be ready to make that full commitment and you'll be willing to share everything you own with your kids. That's when the time will be right. Don't push it. Enjoy your alone time and remember that you won't even have time alone in the bathroom once your babies start to crawl or walk. If you're really concerned about your biological clock, you and your husband should start collecting sperm and eggs for later implantation (they can be frozen) should you have problems conceiving. Grandmothers have successfully carried children for their daughters and I believe I heard that a 60 year old woman just had a baby. So, don't worry so much about your biological clock. Enjoy your life.

Oh, and one other thing. Make sure you do not have an ectopic pregnancy. Sometimes the tests will come back negative when in reality, you are pregnant but with an abnormal pregnancy. Additionally, women have had their periods for months and have had negative pregnancy tests before finally hearing the heartbeat and having the baby move in the womb. So, be sure before you get all excited or upset.

I love kids, babies in particular, and never miss an opportunity to hold a baby. As I get older, I realize that it's nice to hand that baby back to "mom" or "dad" when it's wet or dirty or screaming like a banchee. I would give up my life for my own kids and I would and have risked my life to protect other children.

Answer 3

It is possible to be pregnant 'in your mind.' You want something so bad, you can taste it, but it just isnt coming true yet...I kinda agree with your hubby. You have only been married for 5 months. Enjoy the 'honeymoon stage' for awhile, at least for over a year. Get settles into a routine of married life before you bring a child into this crazy world. I'm sure you will be a wonderful mother, but maybe you should wait until you AND your hubby are ready for the child. Good luck!

Answer 4

to avoid baby fever think about how much babies cost a month, the sleepless nights ahead, the end of your social life - as it is now- for years, your sex life will change, but on the other hand you will have the feeling that you are complete now LOL. I did have many times that feeling that I was pg (even tough we always used a condom, I had to quit pills cause they gave me very hard headaches and my libido drecreased), one of those times my period was late, took the pg test and I wasn't (of course, condoms work right?), next month I was late again and I took a test just for fun and the positive line appeared right away (no birth control method is 100% effective) as unplanned and inexpected as it was we were thrilled with the news, we huged, cried, kissed, had nervous laghter and told everyone right away. My beautiful Sarah is the most precious active healthy 8 month old!! of course she is, she is mine! lOL.........Sorry I got carried away, I already told you how to get the baby fever off, but I also wanted to ilustrate how accidents happen, so planning isn't always a choice, when God thinks you are ready it doesn't matter what you guys think. Best of Luck.

Answer 5

My mind was consumed with thoughts of babies the past few months. However, I am not at a point in my life that I can have babies right now, so I just had to stop myself from thinking about it. It's hard, I know. But you've gotta snap out of it before you drive youself crazy.

Answer 6

I have and it just ended up being wishful thinking. If you want something enough then it will feel true. That's the funny thing about your mind, you can convince body of anything. I don't really know what to tell you about stopping it but I can suggest that you try to get your mind on something else. I know that it's easier said than done. Good luck.

Answer 7

O fcourse you want it so bad that youre giving youre self pregnancy symptoms and getting obsessed when the time it comes it will be happy. This is definetely something your husband and yourself need to talk about.

Answer 8

Its very hard especially when your married cuz you wait so long when you are married and take that next step with children and your partner doesn't wait children. And you see pregnant women and babies on the subway, buses, parks, etc... It could drive you crazy. You just have to be patient. I know its hard but you just have to be patient. I know that one day you will get you baby.

Answer 9

a few months ago I was 19 days late. I cried and cried when I started my period. All through the 19 days, I stayed tired, sleepy, hungry, felt all the signs.

Answer 10

actually i was so obsessed with having another baby,that was all i thought about,every month i would take a preg. test only to find out it was -,thank God i don't think about it anymore,i renewed my faith in God,and i made a decision not to obsess over something that i am not capable of handling.