Ok yes, I know an open marriage doesn't work for everyone, but it works for me and my husband. I have a male friend (That is also in an open relationship) that is very close to both of us, and I am very attracted to him. My husband knows and is ok with it. My problem is that my friend has stood me up 4 times and he say's that he really wants to make things happens. Do I give him another change or do I cut my loses? Yes there are feelings between us, but I don't want to waste my time if it will never work out... What do you think?
2007-10-18 03:15:58 · 18 answers · asked by Different but right for me! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off I don't judge you people on her about what you do in your private lives. I started out by saying it is not for everyone. You people need to understand that not everyone is in the same place in there relationships. If you were just going to judge someone, you should have never answered my question. You should have just moved on.
Secondly thank you to those of you who were kind enough to just give advice and not judge. My husband and I have both decided that this is what we wanted. And yes it is just sex. We are friends first and formost.
2007-10-18 03:48:40 · update #1
Ok for all you people out there that want to knock my way of life and tell me that my marriage is headed for divorce, I have something to say to you. My husband and I have been happily married for 10 years and we have beautiful children together. As far as the person that stated they don't understand how we can watch each other go out on a date with someone else, you have no clue what you are talking about so stay out of it. I did not ask you to comment on what you thought about my lifestyle, I as if I should continue to talk to someone. I will have to answer for my life and you will have to answer for yours. I did not ask for judgement.
Honestly only 1 person has actually answered my quesiton... Thanks
2007-10-18 06:22:59 · update #2
Stood up 4 times? Obviously he doesn't feel the same way about you as you do for him.
If it is just sex, give him another chance, if it does not take you out of your way, otherwise, you will have to cut your losses (or lose self-respect).
2007-10-18 03:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by dpilipis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop lying to yourself and everyone else.
I'll bet that your arrangement really isn't working out all that well for you. You are two selfish people who refuse to stay within the confines of a normal marriage. How a person can watch their husband or wife get ready for a date with someone else, and see them walk out the door is simply beyond my comprehension. The fact that two people can agree to this arrangement and allow their finances to be used in these liaisons is counter-productive to their lives together. Mark it down --- you will be divorced. It's only a matter of time.
Anyone with an ounce of wisdom is not going to be able to answer your question to your satisfaction. Sound advice and your situation are diametrically opposed.
2007-10-18 03:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by mt75689 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
this part that i don't understand " my friend has stood me up 4 times and he say's that he really wants to make things happens." are you saying that he want to be in an open marriage with you? I am totally lost here....ok
2007-10-18 04:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let a man stand you up more than once, it really doesn't sound like he is all that interested in you or he wouldn't keep disappointing you . plenty of other men out there to have fun with i personally have more than one on the string at all times...
2007-10-18 03:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anything about your type of relationship but just guessing from a regular pov, i'd say the guy isn't wanting to go through with it but is telling you otherwise so as not to hurt your feelings.
2007-10-18 03:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
if the guy has stood you up 4 times, let it go. it seems like he's just making excuses not to see you. why knows his reasons, but let it go. if he really wants to get with you, let him come to you. you have done more than your part. Is it just me or is no one answering your actual question, so much as they just want to tell you their opinion about YOUR life?
PEOPLE, ANSWER THE DAMN QUESTION AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!
2007-10-18 04:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You took the right decision. Dont waste your time
2007-10-18 03:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by kaizen2k 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
an open marriage is a nice way of saying that you had issues.
2007-10-18 04:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you're psychotic. "I don't want to waste my time if it will never work out"????? YOU'RE MARRIED! What do you expect it to work out into? If you and your "husband" want to do it with other people than do that, but if you want an actual meaningful relationship with someone then either get a divorce or fix your marriage.
2007-10-18 03:21:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 4⤋
You're proof this kind of relationship only complicates marriage. It doesn't solve any problems, just creates more.
2007-10-18 03:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by betternher 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋