If you are basically living with your girlfriend, see her 7 days a week (and you both don’t mind it either), is it possible they can still cheat? Meaning, can they still sneak around. Now I know about the whole lunchtime thing and working late, but what about them faking be sick and staying home from work?...What about ex’s?...her ex-hubby?...how do I know if she has emotional detachment from me?...less “I Love you’s?”…any help people!!!!....please!...what signs should I look for given my situation???
2007-10-18 02:59:47 · 13 answers · asked by Indy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God you're paranoid.
I suspect that you see your girlfriend as much as you do because you're afraid to let her out of your sight. Did you ever try to hold sand in your fist? It slips right through your fingers. That is what you are doing to your girlfriend. You are holding on so tightly, and you are so worried that she's going to cheat on you, that you are actually pushing her away from you. The problem is that you are too needy and insecure to do anything different. You need to realize that if your girlfriend wanted to cheat on you, there is nothing you can do to stop it. Let go of the death grip that you have on her and start living life. Go places, do things, see friends, and become your own man. That will make your girlfriend want to be with you more than anything else you can do.
Trust me on this --- I know what I'm talking about.
2007-10-18 03:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by mt75689 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually if you spend most of your time together, there is little time for the SO to cheat. Affairs are hard work and most people are not clever enough to keep it going to very long. Plus, they are usually guilt-ridden. Lots of people fake sick to get a day off work, that doesn't mean they are cheating. Signs of cheating can include: inappropriate emails, text messages, letters and phone calls, clandestine meetings where you are absolutely unwelcome, phone calls from the lover or from a person that you don't know that well but they know volumes about you, working late, hanging out with friends all the time. All of these signs are also ambiguous; none of them alone or even all together necessarily point to a cheating SO. Usually the person being cheated on has a pretty strong suspicion that their SO is up to no good. You'd best grab some courage and talk to your gf. Fruitless worrying and baseless suspicion can destroy a relationship just as quickly as cheating.
2007-10-18 03:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that distrustful of your girlfriend, then perhaps you should consider moving out.
She does have a life apart from you and just because she choses to have some breathing space away from you does not mean that she is cheating. Keep suffocating her and she might just
realize that maybe she just doesn't feel romantically involved toward you anymore.
2007-10-18 03:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to TRUST. If she has not given you any clear-cut signs of infidelity, then LET IT GO. You are stressing yourself out with self-esteem issues that most likely have nothing to do with her (but possibly a LOT to do with your growing up years and past). If you try to hold on too tight, you may lose what you have.
2007-10-18 03:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow....we are 2 of a kind! I am in that boat my boy and I are both at the end of divorces, met during them plus he had a gf that he broke up with for me...He doubts I'm good to him, and I doubt hes good to me, we are both coming from just a hard stressful life, and learning to just be us and love each other is HARD!
You have to give in! If you really are in love and really want it to work, give into it! Love that person with all you have, trust them, and just enjoy the relationship, if it doesnt work out then at least you know you gave it your all, and you have nothing to regreat!
Thats what I'm doing at least!
2007-10-18 03:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sort of suspicious thinking is going to ruin your relationship, not to mention unhealthy for your own state of mind.
Stop trying to "make signs" out of regular and normal occurances and start working on making a better relationship. It will help you feel more confident about yourself and your relationship.
2007-10-18 03:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by far2cre8tive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first if she fakes being sick from work too many times u should start to suspect or if shes talking on the phone and walk away talking softly u my good friend start suspecting big time!
2007-10-18 03:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being paranoid, having an affair is a lot of work and she might just be tired, thats why she took a day off work.
2007-10-18 03:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your paranoia is going to destroy your relationship.
Perhaps consider counseling.... do you have abandonment issues? You can do a Yahoo search on abandonment issues and perhaps that would help.
2007-10-18 03:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you spend all your time together, does she act like she loves you? have you ever considered just trusting her? accusing her costantly just pushes her away, if you don't trust her why are you with her?
2007-10-18 03:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Susan C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋