What MUST i do???? The guy is also married, but no longer happy w/ his wife. They seldom see each other. No more intimacy shall I say. He adored his children!
2007-10-18 02:55:16 · 23 answers · asked by Dane Dimen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's this "found myself" bullsh*t?!??
You made literally *hundreds* of conscious decisions, honey -- to hide info from your husband, to dress for your adulterous lover, to wear perfume for him, to talk to him, to keep secrets, to kiss him, to meet with him in secret, to undress in front of him, to hop into bed with him, to spread your legs for him - so don't hand me this "oops! tee-hee! I found myself here!"
That's a HUGE cop out from a chickensh*t spineless selfish person.
Deal with the facts that [1] you have ZERO respect for your husband, [2] you are extremely selfish, [3] you have no honor for your own vows, and [4] you are really good at lying, and you're off to a good start.
First, though, stop making decisions for both people in your marriage without letting him in on those decisions. Tell your husband right now you've been cheating so he has all the information *you* do about the relationship.
Doing all of this, of course, requires you grow a spine and be a grownup to take your deserved punishment, so I doubt it will get done.
2007-10-18 03:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you are 'hooked' on something it means it is an addiction. With most addictions you must stay as far away from the source as possible. You already know the answer to this - stop immediately - have absolutely no contact at all with this man - no calls, no seeing him, no texting or emails. It is like surrounding yourself with alcohol if you were an alcoholic.
You have no idea of how very hurtful someone cheating on you can be. It is the worst thing you can possibly do to the one you say you love. Would you purposely and willingly place anguish, depression, heartbreak and scars on the man you married? Infidelity takes years to get over. You succumbed to temptation and now must do the right thing - stop it right now and turn to your husband to meet all of your needs, not some married man. You two will hurt innocent, trusting and loving mates for your own self-satisfaction. Is this what you really wish?
2007-10-18 03:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could look at your married life and everything you have accomplished. Would it be a good thing to lose it all, or not?
It's not unusual to find ourselves attracted to someone when we are married. We are all human.
The guy you are seeing is not ready for another serious relationship -- if he is unhappy in his own marriage, and wants out, well, he has a lot of emotional baggage to deal with -- and has nothing to give you. Think about it.
If you love your husband and family, perhaps consider getting out of this affair, and move forward the best you can.
take care of YOU -- and consider what would happen if you went with this guy... from here, it doesn't look good.
2007-10-18 03:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm willing to bet that it is now at least 50-60% but on the rise. You already know my answer to the BQ, but I've had one serious internet affair that only resulted in negative for me...embarrassing personal photos being made public, loss of friends, and worse of all my husband deciding to get revenge against me by having a real life affair. The few internet flirtations I've had since then have been pretty insignificant. You aren't a creep...you're a moral-less heathen putrid rotting cesspool of fail. Why are we friends? You and MM are made for each other.
2016-03-13 01:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to stop seeing this guy. I don't know you but I will say this about being married. You stated you were satisfied but you still went out and had an affair. You have your desire box empty and expectations box full. What I mean by that is this, you grew up getting expectation of being married from your parents, other folks being married, TV or books and magazines. Everyone comes into marriage with set of wishes and desires. When our desires for marriage turn to expectations, conflict ensues. The will be four common response to conflict in marriage: We run, we conquer, we conform or we compromise. You expected something from ou husband instead of what you desire in your marriage. You need to sit down and reevaluate your marriage.
2007-10-18 03:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So apparently, all those "till death do us part etc etc" marital vows meant nothing huh? "Found myself hooked..." as if you are some innocent caught in some situation of which you have no control... And yeah, "unhappy with his wife...blah blah blah" is a tired old line yet still seems to work on the weak minded and the weak willed such as yourself..You know it is wrong, otherwise you would not ask for help. What you are doing is selfish, irresponsible and depending on your religious and cultural values, immoral. Stop thinking about yourself and think of your own kids or if you don't have them , think of that idiot's kids. You are going to ruin their lives not yours. You are an adult, you can make decisions. They are kids and they will have their lives probably ruined by two idiots who cannot control; their sexual urges. And pray do tell what your husband has to say about it?? Lemme guess, you lie to him too don't you? So basically, that's what you are.. a liar AND a cheat...Way to go MOM!!!
2007-10-18 04:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by exsft 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at everything you have, take a good look.... Once you go after this other man, everything you have will be gone. You need to examine your life closer and see what YOU can do to improve it. It takes 2 to work at a marriage, and if you're looking to some other guy for sex... and lets face it, that is what we're talking about, then that makes you as much of a dog as any of the other men that cheat on their wives to just have sex. Do you want to be a dog and ruin not only your life, but your FAMILY as well?
2007-10-18 03:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What must you do? That should be a easy answer you already know that what you both are doing is wrong. If you where happy and satisfied you wouldn't be cheating! You need to step back and figure out what's missing from your relationship with your husband and communicate that to him to see if you can fix your marriage. If you don't want to then get a divorce. And the man your sleeping with his problems aren't yours weather they are or aren't intimate and unless your sleeping in the bed with them you don't know if he his telling the truth! The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
2007-10-18 03:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are married than you know its not right. sounds like the exact same guy I had an affair with, he loves his children, but him and wife have drifted apart. Wouldnt happen to live in NC would ya? LOL! I found out the guy is just a cheater, always has been all ways will be. He might be fooling you. be careful, you might lose everything and is it really worth it.
2007-10-18 03:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are aking for trouble, or a divorce! You need to look at your relationship with your husband and figure out what to do so you dont look elsewhere. And yes you are looking if you are having an affair.
2007-10-18 03:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by Redneck5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋