or whatever...
do you love your partner "all" the time?don't you have time when you think if you've made the right choice?
what do you do when you feel that?
2007-10-18 02:46:20 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Egypt
Sweetie, fairy tales exist only in books; there is no such thing as "happily ever after" in real life. Every couple have their fair share of ups and downs. It's how you deal with the "downs" that makes all the difference in your relationship. When you promise to stick together for better or for worse you should expect to have that "worse" from time to time ... life is not all sunshine lollipops and rainbows.
I love my husband very much, but as any couple we do have our differences and arguments. At times I feel like screaming and pulling my hair out, and at other times I feel like killing him! (I'm sure he feels the same too!) But I still love him! I never doubted my decision and if I went back in time I would choose him all over again!
The best thing if you are facing problems with your significant other is to take the direct approach and discuss whatever it is that is bothering you openly and honestly. Listen to their side of the story and let them know how you feel. Letting negative emotions fester is definitely unhealthy for any relationship. Good luck ya amar.
2007-10-19 09:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I love my husband ALL the time. Do I LIKE him all the time? No, sometimes he drives me CRAZY!!! -But I still love him. Yes, it is normal to question decisions you make even in marriage. What do you do when you feel that? --You need to be patient. The time passes... Marriage has it's ups and downs -- ALL marriages eventually do.
Remember:
LOVE is a VERB!!!
Love is NOT always enough. This is why people get MARRIED and have CONTRACTS. The judge that married us for our civil ceremony said some wonderful things on this matter. People fall in and out of love (the infatuated feeling) all the time (usually it is temporary and they will love the person again). If it wasn't for the marriage/contract nobody would stay together. Commitment is the glue that keeps people together not just love. Of course, there are times when one should just say goodbye and end it but that isn't as often as some people think.
The best marriage advice I ever got: You can choose to be right or you can choose to be happy! (In other words you could be a lot happier if you let the other person win the arguments/decisions at least some of the time!)
EDIT: ♥farah♥ gave you an awesome answer and a very honest one too. I wish people would be that honest about marriage more often. You don't know how many times I hear women who have been married 6 months or a year and they really believed that marriage would be "sunshine and lollipops". Even when they say that there are of course problems in any marriage they never truly understood the meaning of that and ended up having a hard time dealing with it.
2007-10-18 10:14:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sassafrass 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Yes I love my Wife, some times we have regular conflicts & some times I day dream if I didn't make my move on to her back in college what will be my life without her.
I find that I've made the right decision to marry her, I gues out there every person have another partner that he only cay marry & no one else will make him happy in his life but that one
I guess I have her
I'm not telling that I live in paradise like no trouble, but I just love her when we have fight & then once I get to her & try to talk her out of it , we finish it immidiatly.
So I guess I do love her all the time even if I don't know that I love her all the time.
2007-10-20 18:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Far Away ( Almost there) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think any on loves their partner "all" the time. When He pisses me off, i don't like him very much. I don't wonder if I made the right choice but I wonder how my life would be if I was married to some one else. And it's all normal thinking. They probably do the same thing too. When I feel that way, I think about the time he almost died on me after he was hit riding his Harley and I remember why I love him.
2007-10-18 02:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by just me 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Loving my partner is because of her and how much she can work out life in a good shape with me... Not only reason there are many others... I wouldn't choose my partner from beginning if there is any miss-communication... but if there was any misunderstanding after marriage or after selecting her...then I should use any good communication skills to get the wrong, right.
My partner is my friend... So I love my partner :)
2007-10-18 03:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by mohamed e 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i do, i think everyone does. relationships are part of real life, not fairy tales. i've ben with my partner for 3 years. i love him but have questioned, usually after a fight if i do love him or not.
most of it is the fact when you live with someone for a while you fall out, like you di when you live with your family. but you don't chose your family, so you let minor arguments go, but with a partner, you are finding out about them, even down the road, years later. they see you all the time, at your best, but also at your worst. you might be able to tell your mum to go away your not coming down for tea, but say that to your partner and well, you could be in for trouble.
when we went through a rough time a while ago i went to stay with my family, i soon realised how much i loved my partner and we got a lot better after that. now we try and talk about why we might feel off with each other. its usuallly not the person but the situation
of course it is healthy to question a relationship :) you don't want to be stuck in a miserable one
2007-10-18 02:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by ombomstiggywoggles 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I do love my husband VERY much! We have disagreements and misunderstandings but that comes with the territory of marriage. We show and tell each other how much we love each other and we remember how much it hurt to stay apart from each other like we did.
I know I have made the right choice because, well, cant say why because it will sound crazy to most people about how we met. MashaALLAH, Alhamdulillah
~peace
2007-10-18 10:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by Onomatopoeia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, I love my husband all the time now. but before I questioned myself abt it manytimes. Love grows by time, the longer I'm married, the more I feel in love with my husband. Everyone has ups and downs, but now no matter what happens, whether we fight or not talk to each other or stuff like that, I always know I love him still :). I was not 100% sure abt my choice but now that we have been married for almost 2 yrs and having a baby, I am sure :) good luck hun
2007-10-18 08:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ruby 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Ranoush, Love is not a part time job at all, it's literally a lifetime continuous stream that sometimes may be polluted with fights or arguments but it is still running. As for the choice, it remains a choice for the engagement time but once it turns into a marriage, it is no longer a choice, it is a destiny.
2007-10-18 09:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by Salloo7a 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
that's difficult for good married couples...
because Love in Marriage grows through commitment and the everyday life issues, what they go through together brings a new kind of love to life, like when they face troubles together, bright and dark moments...having the same life and witnessing the same events together seeds a very strong tie inside them, close to this between family members, making each is "used to" loving their partner, not necessarily about the choice.
2007-10-18 03:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by Psycho 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋