Would you Want Your 11-13 yr old grandaughter on the Pill?

Question

Check this link out...give me your thoughts, whatever they may be

Sorry -forgot the link - here it is

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21358971/

Answer 1

Especially not if I'm not informed or consulted.

I was very open with my girls. Totally honest and kept the line open to discuss things. I hoped for abstinence but since I was young myself I also knew the realities and encouraged birth control and said tell me and we'll find an option. I have to admit I was freaked out when I was informed of the truth and asked to hold up my end.....but it wasn't until she was 17 1/2. Now to have them at 11.....is beyond me.

Having 2 girls and remembering my youth.....there was 1 thing definitely different. 6th graders shouldn't be put in with 7th and 8th graders. I remember going to their open house and here's my daughter....looking like she should be in 3rd grade.....and the older girls looking like they should be in high school. Little boys and others with beards already. Major changes happen in those years and personally I feel some are pressed way too soon and probably wouldn't be if they weren't subjected to older kids that early. Sometimes 1 year can make a world of difference.

I just don't think mentally they are ready and I'm still not sold that the birth control pill is wise when many of these girls haven't even had their "visitor" yet. I would support much more a class to learn than some nurse passing out birth control pills. Heck mine couldn't remember their back-pack and homework from day to day.....let alone to take a pill as scheduled. Not to mention it does nothing for disease.....which can ruin your chances forever for having children or kill you.

I mean talk about mixed messages.....give an 11 year old the pill.....yet charge a guy with child molestation when he takes her up on it. They have young men that were 18 and had sex with a classmate that was consentual but under 18....17...even 16...sometimes 17 1/2 that were charged with statuatory rape or on a sexual predator or offender list. I mean make up your mind. If pregnancy isn't a deterrant....jail should be......and if it's not....where do you draw the line?

Ya....it's a reality....well if it gets to 11 yr olds without any parental consult....lets just casterate all the men or sterilize all the women and get it over with once and for all.

Answer 2

No I would not want my daughter or grand daughter (if I had one) on the pill. That is just opening the door to them and saying that it is ok by you for them to be active (whether they are or not).

If it is to help them out with their periods, that is fine, but they need to have their periods for at least a year or so to let nature take its course to get regulated. And then only if the doctor thinks that it is necessary at that time. Not because they want to be active.

If a child, yes a child...11-13 is still a child wants on birth control of any type because they want to be active, I think they should have to take a class first. A class that teaches them what could happen should they decide to still be active. I mean films of what the STD's looks like and all the gory stuff, leave nothing out at all.

Also as part of the class I think that they should have to listen to other girls that age that have in fact had baby's, let those girls (with their baby's with them) tell the others that want to get on the birth control pill what it is like to have a baby that young. What all they have to give up so that they can take care of the child that they brought into this world.

I also think that they should have to carry a doll around them where ever they go for at least a month. Treat that doll as though it was a baby in every way.

In short, they need to know ALL the gory details about it all. They need to understand that just because they are on the pill DOES NOT keep them from getting pregnant, it does help.

Once they have gone threw all this AND understand what they are getting into, IF they think they still want to be on the pill....fine, but with parent consent.

I do have a daughter that is now 23. Before she became a young lady, I had my talk with her. After she became a lady, I had yet another talk with her. This time I went into more detail with her on the facts of life. I don't know if I just got lucky with her or what, but she has yet to have a child. She is active and has been since she was 19, with one guy only.

I am sorry that this is so lenghty, but I think girls AND boys should be taught very early about the facts of life and all the gory details that go with it. Once they are old enough to understand all of it, then go for the pill if that is what they still want.

Answer 3

I didn't see a link, but this is a question that does need addressing. When my daughter was about that age she became sexually active and I was a bit naive at the time re: teenage activities although I did encourage her when she was a bit older to get birth control. unfortunately she stopped taking the pill and got pregnant at 18. My beautiful 13 yr old grandaughter lives with us and we seem to communicate better than my daughter and I did. She insists she won't need it because she is waiting until she is older . She hasn't started going out with boys yet but I'm sure that when she does, given the attitude of todays' youth , it will just be a matter of time. Better the pill than pregnant. It really puts a damper on life when it occurs under the wrong circumstances.

Answer 4

Yeah, a 13 year old can like an 11 year old. There's not that much of an age difference. Plus by the way your describing this boy, he does really like you so obviously he can:P If you dont like this boy just stop talking to him. He's probably taking your aggression as flirting. But you never know, maybe you two will end up together, when you're older of course.

Answer 5

Truthfully, I have concerns over long term hormonal therapy of any sort. After being on birth control for so many years, my cousin needed help to start a family. She was taking birth control pills to clear up her skin. Her only son was born with a birth defect.
It breaks my heart into tiny pieces when I hear a child having those type of relations with a guy. They are totally unprepared emotionally to handle the sexual encounter, most think that it is "love" and they will get married. Unfortunately, that does not happen, they are vulnerable and will have their hearts broken numerous times. Many sexually abused children start having sex very early after listening to the person who did this to them, telling them that they "loved" them and that they are "pretty". The children garner the attention through sexuality..sometimes they get gift all sorts of things that children love. Most want the child to keep the "secret" that they share or even more dangerous, threaten to harm them or their parents if they "tell"

We also know that breast cancer is hormonally linked to estrogen. Taking the pill at such a young age really I feel is risky.

Answer 6

no link sorry but I do think it's better then having a pragnet teen they are going to do it anyway plus it helps regulate there monthly visitor!!!
the pill is used more for just birth control these days! and if your 11-13 yr old is having sex then it is best to have some sort of control ... moreover if she is not secure enought to put on a rubber... and if she is having sex at 11-13 yrs then chances are she will be or was pure pressured into it and does not have a large enought back bone to say no!

i was there it was hard I didn't have a back bone but i did have a small one to put on a rubber!
Lost mine V at 13 or 14 so i'm sure they younger generation is starting younger then I did!

Be safe reather then sorry!

Answer 7

My kids are all grown up, but. I would never allow it. My wife pointed out that bit of news she saw during her lunch break.
A parent has to examine very closely these events where the state is superseding the rights of the parents over the law of the state. Parents are losing rights. And yet, if the child does something wrong the parents are held accountable.
I think the birth control pill is more for eroding the rights of parents, and encouraging sexual behavior.

Answer 8

Have you seen how many kids who are 13 and younger are here on Yahoo who say they are sexually active?

Unless the USA is prepared to monitor and censore media content that these kids are being brain washed with then this is not that ridiculous a concept. Girls are being pressured via the media and their peers to be hot and sexy and skanky by the time they are old enough to watch TV.

The majority of parents do not monitor TV or movies, they seem to think kids "dont understand or assimilate" what they are seeing. WRONG numerous studies have proven children who watch tv shows with sexual content are way more likely to have sex at an much earlier age, and to exhibit inappropriate sexual behavior towards their peers as well as adults.

Which is better? A adolescent on birth control or one who is pregnant?

I find it abhorrent that society has come to this, but we cannot stick our heads in the sand, ignore reality and sacrifice our children because of our own moral values.

If I knew an effective way to fight this immortality, sodomon and gomorha (sp?) society we live in I would be out there fighting as hard as I could - but how to be stop these purveyors of immorality and sexual permissiveness?

In our own homes we CAN turn the channel, make sure the parents of our grandchildren understand how very damaging these images are to young minds, but what can we do about those parents who dont care what their kids watch?

These kids are going to school with our grandchildren and bringing the things they have "learned" from watching TV and movies with them -

Answer 9

providing she is physically able to tolerate the pill (it's not for everyone) and if she is, or is about to become, sexually active - then I would take her to the obgyn myself.

abstinence is a nice idea, but I live in the real world. when my daughter was old enough to get pregnant, I let her know that all she had to do was ask and I would make it(the pill) happen for her. she also understood that this was not "permission" to be sexually active, but a concern for her larger life, that a moment of teenage hormonal bad judgement not cause her a life that was much different from her own plans for herself. she thanked me,and said no...she wasnt ready for that yet. when she was, I took her. I have never regretted it. She became a mother BY CHOICE after she was ready.

Answer 10

Better than a pregnancy. But I am concerned about the hormonal thing going on for 40-50 years. My oldest granddaughter is on the pill due to awful cramps and horrible PMS. She is a bear to bare. I have another granddaughter that should be but her parents for some reason would rather pretend everything will be all right.