School life or Out-of-school life?

Question

I feel like I've really mucked up my life in school - friends, peers, talents, self-esteem, etc.
I love my life out of school and I try to encourage myself to hope and just get through things, but when I go back to school, I see people getting congratulated for doing things I could do better at. I just really don't get around to showing those talents cos i'm not so popular. I see some of my friends hugging others or going for 'walks' with them whereas I am left thinking "what about me". In class, peers get fussed over who they sit with. To me, I'd prefer sitting next to a 'nerd' than someone who makes you look stupid by saying "can i move?"

I get chances to tlk to ppl but I act so shy. I am so happy, confident and smart at home and I wish I was like that at school. I get so hurt over little things at school. I can't wait to leave school/

Please tell me, does life at school not matter later in life? Should I keep depending on my life out-of-school?
Does this happn to other ppl?

Answer 1

Make the best of the rest of your school life--focus on your grades and get involved in activities and events that interest you; who knows, you may be able to turn it around and have your turn to "shine" yet. Be on the lookout for others at school like you who seem shy and are kind of hanging back from the crowd--someone like that would probably welcome a friend as much as you would.

Are there other activities in your community outside that you could get involved in, such as church or Y programs or sports leagues? You might even find other kids from your school doing those things too & it would give you a way to get to know them better & become friends.

Even if things don't improve, you have a chance to start over when you go to college and/or into the workplace. Focus on what you want to do with your life--the closer you get to your goals, the more similar and possibly more compatible the folks surrounding you will be.

I was not shy, but still found myself on the fringe in high school. I kept my grades up, so some kids thought I was a nerd, and tried to stay out of trouble, so some kids thought I was boring. College was a different story--first it was bigger, so there wasn't one main "in" group, there were lots of small groups. If you live on campus you are thrown together with the others for meals and dorm life and you just have to get to know each other and get along. And most of them were on some sort of grant or scholarship program and had to keep their grades up, so all of a sudden being a nerd was cool.

Whatever you do, don't quit school and stay out of trouble--there are usually some predatory kids (especially guys) who tend to prey on shy, less popular kids and entice them into all sorts of things like drugs, promiscuity, etc. You sound too smart to fall for that, but I'm just reminding you to keep your guard up. Hang in there--high school will one day just be a vague memory and your ultimate success in life depends on you!

Answer 2

People in school can be cruel and groups tend to make others feel uncomfortable. Some people who were not popular in school turn out to be very successful in later life. The best thing you can do is learn how to get along with others and be accepted for yourself even if you are unique. You need to cultivate a group of friends that you feel comfortable with and find ways to build your self esteem and confidence. I'm sure that there is something that you do very well so concentrate on that and people will recognize your talent.

Answer 3

Honestly most of what happens in school does not matter except for the learning process. The people you know in school you most likely won't see much once you are done with school. I was miserable in school because of the same things that you don't like. Once school was over life gets so much better. It does happen to other people. Life at school is over once you are out of school so then it won't matter. Live life outside of school and ou will be happy. In school just grin and bear it.

Answer 4

i know what your talking about but try to show your talent and try to stop acting so shy and what not and stay in school because enless you want to work in a fast food restuarant the rest of your life then you'll need school

Answer 5

people are ignorent, and i know what it like to havea great home life asnd a shitty school one, don't worry about other people, they're immature and know nothing. while you could continue your schooling, and have an amazing job, they will probably be working at mcdonalds. Show off your stuff