2007-10-18 01:24:43 · 28 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh dear, I can relate to you so much.., but the truth of the matter is ...NO...us girls go into relationships thinking that we can and most of us don't give up trying..But, I believe you can get them to come around to your way of thinking., alittle at the time. Men, like women are stubborn and we get set in our ways early in life. The best way to get him to show more affection is to tell him that you need and want to be cuddled..If only men would understand that we would all be better off. It is really hard to find a true Romeo. I should know, I;'ve been looking all my life. He's no where to be found. Sorry, there's no changing him, BUT...with persistent you CAN get him to come around to your way of thinking. Men are easily lead, come up with something very affectionate on your own, and if you do it often enough, he might get the hint.. Good luck, I know exactly where you are coming from. If you truly love him, you've got your work cut out for you...
2007-10-18 01:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an age old question that women have asked for a very long time. The answer to your question is simply put no. No matter what you do you are not going to change their behavior pattern. Those patterns were instilled in him a long time ago. It all started from birth until today. There are so many factors which infuence a person on if they are a little affectionate or a lot. My best advice to you is to just let him be himself and you be yourself. The other factors that make up that individual if they are good will far outweigh any factors that he may not be strong in.
2007-10-18 01:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The answer is a big NO! No matter how much they try, this is who they are, and they cant change. You have to accept them for who they are or find someone more affectionate. Before you do that, attempt to communicate with him why you need more affection and how it makes you feel. See if you notice a difference. Chances are you may for a day, but after that he will return to who he is.
2007-10-18 01:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
come on! are you for real lady? let switch this question around and say, can you change a girl/woman and make her show him more affection. The answer is no! If he/she don't feel the need to be any more affection toward their partner/companion why go through the motion. Reason; many reason why. Its left up to him/her to change on their own and more you nag them about it more they will resist.
2007-10-18 01:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These sorts of questions always crack me up. Here is one simple observation I have made over the years, and I'm sure you'll probably agree:
Women will spend an entire lifetime trying to take the men they're with and change them, mold them, and "improve" them. Men on the other hand want nothing more than for women to stay exactly as they were when they first started dating them! Funny, huh?
2007-10-18 01:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 47 years old and I can tell you from my experience that you can NOT change someone. If they want to change their own fate they will. They may change because they want to please you but deep down they will resent you. I was married 15 years to a man that I thought I could change because when I met him he was living in his car and eventhough he tried for awhile he always went back to his old ways and we ended up divorcing. We had 3 children together and it harmed them the most and to this day we still can not talk civil to each other.
I then met a man I fell head over heels in love with and he stressed how much he wanted to change his life and always agreed with me on how I wanted to life. We spent almost 2 years together and I loved him more then life itself and one day he met someone who was willing to let him be the way he WAS and so he was smitten with her and started going back to his old ways and he broke up. It has been 2 yrs since we broke up and I still to this day love him more then any other man I have met and I was just married in August. I love my husband but not the same way I loved this man. You can not make an old dog do new tricks hun.
Best of luck to you
2007-10-18 01:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by candlemom1960 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can only change yourself, but it wouldn't hurt to suggest to him a behaviour that would make you feel happy? Be a little more specific with what you want. Being vague doesn't help. "Seek to be loved and you probably won't; seek to love on the other hand and you probably will be." M.Scott Peck
2007-10-18 02:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by Andretti 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. Think Pavlov's dog. When he shows you affection give him something he wants. Maybe a cookie. Every time he gives you a hug or kiss give him a cookie and he will keep coming back for more.
2007-10-18 01:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by Big Red 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not really. You may be able to point out that it would be 'nice' if he was more affectionate. At the end of the day you should never try to change anyone. They are who they are.
2007-10-18 01:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You can't change people. They're going to do what they're going to do.
If he isn't showing you enough affection, and you try to make him show more, it won't last. Eventually, he'll go back to his old ways.
If it's something you need, then you should find someone else.
People don't change - they just do what comes naturally.
2007-10-18 01:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by LilyRosemary 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋