Im 26 with no kids.no responsibities,i live with my parents,dont own a car and im not married.I had the odd relationship now and again but nothing serious.Not because i dont want one but because i just dont find any body appealing.I have a wonderful job.I have certifates and diplomas and nw im doing a degree.People say i should be happy cos i dont have kids which is difficult to grow up and that i dont have to worry bout a man been unfaithful to me.Should i envy all my friends who have kids and are married or do they envy my life?
2007-10-17 23:16:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh...you are 26 you say?
2007-10-17 23:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by essence_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
26 is still really young- Im 20 and I think at 26 I will THINK about having Children then, Although Im in a very happy 2 1/2 year relationship which is great.
My fella would make a great Dad but a baby can wait. I want to get to be with him for atleast 5 years before we commit further, We already have a beautiful home. We are yet to buy are own home but I would prefer to do that in 2 years and get that ball rolling before we get in 4-5 Years and then DISCUSS a child.
Untill everything else falls in to place Im in No rush and neither should you be.
Be Happy
Flic xx
I dont think you should Envy your friends you should be happy for them.
2007-10-18 06:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Monalee, only one person has the answer to this question...it's you. I have a question for you...do you feel happy?
Mona you can't go around measuring your happiness with everyone out there. Happiness comes from within.
When 'people' say you should be happy you don't have kids and have to worry about a man being unfaithful, those 'people' are very negative and probably don't appreciate what they have. Take a moment and think about it, if we all lived life that we as a species would die. We would deny our basic human nature and needs as a humans.
No one should envy anybody's life. If you go through life being like that, you will never be satisfied and never feel complete, something will always be missing no matter what you have.
'The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.' If you don't know this saying, it means that: no matter what you have, it's what you don't have that is always more appealing and you want it.
Yes, I agree you don't experience all the bad things that come with having a kid or a man/loved one. However you have to look at what you are missing...the companionship a loved one brings. Someone to talk to when you feel bad or if you need advice. Someone who knows what you go through because they go through it with you.
In terms of having kids, yes, it is difficult raising a good human being but ask any parent how many times they feel proud about raising a kid into a young adult and seeing them flourish and have a good life.
You are a perfect example. Ask your parents how good it made them feel to see you come into this world. The time your mom looked down upon your innocent face as she held you in her arms for the first time. There is no word for the feelings she felt.
Think about all the hardships that parents have to overcome but in the end if they raised a good human being and they have families of their own, parents know that when they are gone they left behind something good in this world.
What does that say for the rest of us?
Mona reguardless of what 'people' say as long as we leave the world in a little better shape than it was when we first came, that's all one can hope for in life, with or without kids or a significant other.
Thanks for listening and good fate (I say fate because only we can control our fate, we cannot control our luck)
"Sometimes the answers are in our heart. We just have to hear someone say them to bring them out." -Thoughts of Droo (That's me).
2007-10-18 07:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by DROO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people are always going to envy what they don't have, it's human nature. I'm sure your friends envy your life without responsibilities as I'm sure you envy theirs.
Someone who you find appealing will come along and you'll have a fantastic relationship but at some point during that relationship, if only for a split second, you'll envy the single people around you.
It sounds like your doing really well for yourself. Good job, good qualifications... At the end of the day your the one that matters the most. Responsibilities will come along eventually and you'll wish for these days to come again...
2007-10-18 06:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Clementine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you see, its about your life and being happy with what you have at present. You are still young. It is right not hurry things up. It is a wonderful thing to have a family of your own but the right time will come for you. Envying other people will do you no good. There are good things for every situation remember that..while we are complaining of our situation, someone may be wishing she is in ours. But if we just learn to appreciate what we have, there will be no more stressing thoughts, right? I'm also at that stage but I believe what God has planned for me. And i'm happy right now. having a good job, helping my family.. but when I get old I also want to be atken care of..that is the time.. that we think of having our own..but at your age..enjoy life's blessings. :)
Hope this helps. God bless
2007-10-18 06:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by justurangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in sorta the same situation as you. And i know i don't want kids at this moment even though i think about it. I know i think about giving a child what i was never given but that i'm not ready now. And i don't want a relationship. I'm happey if i can find female friends only friends. But most women in this age group is focused on bf or want another friend who is in same situation as them.
2007-10-20 02:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To each, his own. Eveyone values something different in life. You are still enjoying staying home with your parents. That is fine, but some people would go crazy in a situation like that. Others would rather be struggling through life with a house full of children. It all depends on what you want in life. Always please yourself.
2007-10-18 06:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone moves at their own pace. You will find happiness when you are ready. I hope you find someone to be with and have the life you want. enjoy life as you make it. it sounds like you are doing ok so far. good luck.
2007-10-18 06:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ginnykitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋