Here's the scenario -
Last night i went to the cinema to watch Superbad with my friend. During the trailors i saw this girl i know come in with a guy.
As the film went on they were getting intimate, kissing and all over each other.
The problem is this girl i know has been going out with a friend of mine for over 4 years. Hes gone to Uni and shes obviously taking advantage while he is gone.
I left quickly at the end of the film so she wouldnt see me. I called my friend up later on and he told me that the long distance relationship is going well with her and shes seeing him this weekend.
What should i do? I cant help but feel useless!
2007-10-17 22:40:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
come out and tell your friend what is going on and if your friend you went with saw it then you have a witness on your behalf. and if he don't belive it then he is a fool. that means he would belive her over his best friend and that means he don't care and i hope he belives u n makes her go gt tested before hey have s e x
2007-10-17 23:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by tommysgurl_4502214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If and only if you are absolutely you are sure that it was her, then you have a bit of a problem. Ask yourself this; if you were the one away at Uni, would you want to know? Then you need to confront her before she sees him this weekend and tell her that you do not approve of what she is doing to your friend. Tell her that if she does not tell him that you will. Call him and let him know that you need to talk to him when he has plenty of time, like Sunday. Call him back on Sunday and ask him how he is and let him know what you seen and tell him that you don't want to see him hurt but you felt he had a right to know. They may have agreed to see other people while he is away but I somehow doubt that. Then be there for him to listen if he needs you to be and drop the rest. Your conscience will be clear and you will have given her the chance to own up to it first. Good luck
2007-10-18 05:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow! This is a very ackward situation to find yourself in. Good friends tell each other the good, the bad and the ugly. Just be prepared for it if he turns on you when you deliver this news. For some reason, in matters of the heart, the person they are dating ALWAYS wins out in the "who do I believe?" category. But if he doesn't believe you, you have at least cleared your conscience. And the truth always comes out, so she won't be able to hide her sneaky ways forever. Good luck!
2007-10-18 05:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by missunderstood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend,
This is a tough bind you're in. But I always advise for doing what is right. and what is doing right? It means talking with the girl 1st. Telling her about how you saw her with another man. If she gets angry with you, tell her actually it's you who should be angry because she is cheating your friend. Then tell your friend. If you're really a friend, as hurt as he will be, it is still the best course of action. Can your conscience handle it? That important information you're withholding from your friend? Honestly your friend will be better off without this cheating girlfriend of his. The sooner, the better. Believe me, you are doing him a big favor. Maybe he won't realize it now yet. But years from now, he will.
2007-10-18 05:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a really tough situation and it is a really hard position to be put in but, i think you should definitely tell your friend about what you saw. If you are 100% positive that it was his girlfriend then he deserves to know. He would be better off knowing then being played by that girl any longer. Also, just think if the situation were switched if you would expect him to tell you something like that. good luck!
2007-10-18 05:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by MTak 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not your business. All will be revealed in time but
it is not your place to do so. If someone asks for your insight
that would be different. Back off and get your own soap opera.
2007-10-18 05:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by sunnymommy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should definitely tell your friend, he is been cheated on and he is your friend, now if your girlfriend was doing the same wouldn't you want to know, he is your friend and if later your friend finds out you knew, your friendship with him will probably end, so tell your friend straight away.
2007-10-18 05:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by kutchigal2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since your friend has now been informed about the girl, it is for him to decide his future.Having done your duty, you may better remain aloof.
2007-10-18 05:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell him because that is what a friend is for if he gets mad at u don't worry about it as long as he knows. if he knows he will ask her or want to know so he will investigate it. then when he finds out u will be cool and he will love u for telling him
2007-10-18 05:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by schultzie2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would of took a picture other then that I would ask your friend a question like. if you seen someone chating on me would you tell me? and would you want me to tell you and the explain to him and tell him what the guy looked like
2007-10-18 05:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by Melinda B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋