Is it wrong for a woman to divorce her hubby becos he does not earn enough....?

Question

let me clear this.. i am single but have a friend whose wife left him becos she said that....

so i asked him how much he earns compared to her.....he said "she earned much more than me"

Answer 1

morally its wrong, i mean in the vows u do say "for richer or poorer" but with that said.. in this day and age, finances can be a huge problem and can be a reason of divorce...

For example: Say a couple gets married.. when they got married the husband had a decent job, had goals , ambition etc.. everything a woman thought she would want in a man as far as finacial security.. benfits everything.. but say down the road, he loses his job for whatever reason.. and instead of going and finding another job he depends on her to get them by.. and say she cant do that very well with out his help cause he made considerably more money then her and their bills were based more on his finacial means then hers.. and instead of going and getting a job to help her , he becomes lazy or depressed, meanwhile watching his wife cry night after night stressing over how they are going to pay the bills.. watching her kids have to do with out because money is so incredibly tight, watching the bills add up etc..

At what point would she have to decide whether to save him, or save her kids from drowning in a downward spiral of his own financial self destruction?

Call me old fashioned.. but I definately feel that it is a Mans job to financially support his family.. and the wifes income is more of a plus or a helping hand.. but it is his job to secure his families financial means.. and if he is unmotivated, and a "dreamer" instead of a realist, it can cause major problems in a marriage. ESPECIALLY if kids are involved, its one thing to have to go without, its another to watch ur kids have to suffer for it as well..

So although you take a vow that says for better or for worse, richer , or poorer, sickness and in health to death do u part.. sometimes u have to make choices that u wish u didnt have to make, but sometimes are a must need to survive and to ensure your kids lives.

So it depends on the situation..

If she left just because she was materialistic and she married him knowing what she was getting herself into financially with him, then is wrong for leaving him over finacial reasons.. but if things changed drastically from either their "game plan" for the future, or things went backwards.. and he did nothing to change things, then she may of had a good reason for leaving..

Answer 2

Well guess what money is the number one reason why people get divorced. And with a divorce rate over 50% than society has deemed it acceptable. Whether it truly is should really be a case by case situation. Consider this what if she is the bread winner and he is the compulsive spender putting their family in severe debt? So before we go running around screaming shallow we really need more details. And to those that believe its the husbands job to earn the bacon well guess what women are just as capable. It is said to think that most of todays issues are about paper bills and electronic numbers but its the truth.

Answer 3

Ask any single mom, having and raising children without a man's financial support is hard.

So if a woman wants to have children, but her husband will not or cannot provide, divorce is a rational option.

Of course this kind of depends on what you mean by enough. If the guy makes enough to raise the kids, but not enough to live in Beverly Hills, than the folks yelling "Shallow" are right.

Answer 4

Yes, was she marrying, the money or the person. You need to work together to bring in more income as a couple, so, if she has gone let her be and move on. The world has been polluted by people who think that money is the only thing that they need in a marriage. They forget it can buy you a house but not a home, it can buy you gifts but not love and much more. I also think that she must be very shallow in her thinking. Let her move on and hope she gets lots of it where she is headed.

Answer 5

If you mentioned the richer or poorer part in your vows, then you answered your question.

But overall, yes, that would not be a very good reason to divorce your husband. You don't know that the next guy will make any more money, and you will basically be saying that your nothing more than a whore.

Answer 6

Yes it is wrong. The vows...richer, poorer...ring a bell at all. It is different if he is a deadbeat and refuses to get a job to help with the household. If he is working, though, then why do you feel the need to be selfish. You married him because you loved him. You are being selfish here and need to evaluate your heart.

Answer 7

Your friend is a gold-digger, her husband is better off without her.

Let your friend go from man to man to man to man and spend the rest of her life "digging for gold" that she will never find?

Why?? JMO and only JMO but money does not buy happiness.

And you can't take it with you when you die.

You come into this world with nothing, and you leave this world with nothing.

Answer 8

Well is wrong.. but why marry the man in the first place? if she already knew what he made when they got married, sounds like she is a bit shallow and unsure of what she wants, happiness is priceless maybe she will learn that down the road when she get her self a rich man who will treat her like crap.

Answer 9

whoa ......well yes in a way..but i would understand why..
maybe shes worried that when you both raise a family you cant be depend on with money....or you cant provide....i know women can help out and do the same....but dont forget ...your the husband and the family men...in the future you need to support the family in love and financial....

so in a way its wrong she should have been more supportive then choosing to leave you..
and the other hand i would understand why would she do that...

dont forget women loves material things...if you cant provide them with that then they will find someone else who can...

Answer 10

A Saudi female can no longer divorce her husband, era. If she tried, she could be stoned. yet, Saudi men can divorce their better halves all they choose, in spite of if the rationalization grew to become into she burnt the pancakes.