am i lesbian??

Question

or, do i have any tendency to become lesbian?
well..i m married, very much happy with my husband - our sexual life is also good. but, when i think by myself about any girl(test basis), i mean - any intimate situation with any girl, i really become wet...but, in absence of my husband, if i think intimate about him i dont become that wet...so, is this simptom of a lesbian? do u think, in future it will create any problem in my sexual life?

Answer 1

If you are very happy with your husband then you aren't lesbian. Bisexual most likely, if you feel something towards women - almost everybody is somewhere in between straight and gay (just google the "Kinsey Scale" and you'll see what I mean).

And if you are very happy with your husband, then there would be no reason to leave him? Sexual desire very often diminishes in marriage, so feeling less desire towards him isn't surprising. There's nothing wrong with being bi or lesbian, but leaving your husband for no real reason isn't really ideal, so maybe focus on spicing it up between you, and rejuvenating your relationship!

Answer 2

Yeah if you have an idea girl in mind you hope you may get with, because if she do you right you might leave your husband. I believe you felt that way before you got married. But like society says you should be with a man, and you are with a man, but you really want a woman.

Answer 3

No, you are not a lesbian. In any case you are probably bi or bi-curious.

It seems that most straight people out there can actually have a little bit of bi-curiosity in them. Others just don’t care what gender they having sex with as long they are having good time, but of course in those cases they are called plain “bi” or bisexuals in the real term.

Nobody here didn’t even point out something that is probably your answer: you compared the facts that you get wet thinking about being intimate with another girl but you don’t get like that or as exited if you think about your husband.

I can tell you why you get wet: you do have curiosity and/or get a little bit attracted by having sex with other girls. But because is something you have never done, you really get exited if you think about it. On the contrary, you always do it with your man, so of course, as human beings, we tend to get bored and get used to things, so maybe when you were a teenager you would have got your panties soaked thinking about having him inside you or maybe giving him oral, or whatever you enjoy with him, but now you are used to it, so is not something “forbidden” or kinky, so you don’t get wet or at least that wet.

You also pointed that you do get very wet thinking of having sex with another woman but in absence of your husband. That tells me you do in fact have bi tendencies, and on this case, you want to enjoy this fantasy alone with that other chick, not your husband.

What to do?

Well, if you think your husband is not into anything like that, and you think your fantasy can stay like that, as a fantasy, then do that to be safe.

Now, if your husband is a “typical” guy (meaning he likes lesbian action and bi girls and even threesomes with two girls), or you do know you need to at least once explore that fantasy in reality, or both your husband likes it and you can not take it anymore, then you should talk to him and at least let him help you.

I hate how in these situations people is afraid to tell and worse, after they tell their partner get all mad and sad about it. Hello people?! We are humans and we are not perfect! And I think if I remember correctly I told my wife that I will be with her in good and bad times and help her also no mater what.

So, why is this situation different from any other? You have this problem (not a bad problem, is a problem because is making you frustrated cause you don’t know what to do), so you should be able to get help from your husband. Even if he doesn’t like anything about lesbians and girls on girls, he has to help you out if you tell him.

How can he help you? Well, from talking about it, to actually making it happen. That is all up to him and you too. Have an honest talk, let him know you love him and you are happy, but that as human, you feel some curiosity and gets you exited to think about other girls, and you would like his opinion and advice if possible.

Maybe he won’t be able to help, or maybe he will bring over 10 girls home for you to choose. Who knows…

Good luck, think about it, and do what you think is best for you and your relation as well… and have fun!

Answer 4

This is how it starts.
This is even further proof that Gayness isnt an inherited trait like peoplebelieve.

Its a learned behavior..a curiosity that ultimately turns people gay.
whether it was looking at videos, hearing people talk.

When gay people are talking about theres a gay Gene,
its so follish.
this is the real cause of it.

Curiosity...
mainstream media....
and sometimes emotional dependency.

thanks for provingmy point.

As far as are you lesbian.
I would say youre curious, and its going to be up to your belief system that makes you or prevents you from ever being a lesbian

Answer 5

Maybe mid life crisis - many people go through it or maybe your going through some emotional problems with your husband at the moment and your mind has painted this as the solution (hurt him, make him feel inadequate etc.).

(Please best answer me if remotely useful)

Answer 6

well..most probably you will turn bi..don worry bout it. There wont be any troubles in the future juz that you will be thinking of doing it with woman rather than juz man alone...EnJoY uR LiFe!!!!

Answer 7

You have bisexual tendancies, but whether you act on them is another thing. Be happy to accept yourself as you are - nothing to be ashamed of.

Answer 8

You're just bisexual.
You love your husband and you like girls.so you're bisexual

Answer 9

sounds more bi curious to me

Answer 10

sound like bi to me