I have a problem... I seem to expect too much from everything and everyone and find my expectations break everytime, then I get really depressed. Especially with the girl I love... I expect too much from her like sometimes I expect her to say very caring words to me or I expect her to do something but then my expectations break. Not even once its been fulfilled. I am really in problem. Just yesterday my expectations were broken by that girl. I was really sad. She asked me why I was sad and I said that I had hoped something from her and it was broken. After that she felt guilty for not doing that thing which I was expecting. Its really troubling us both. It leaves her in tears. What should I do that I don't expect so much from her? I want to expect anything from her. Its optimistic to have hopes but in my case its troubling me. Plz help me...
2007-10-17 21:32:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If you know it is hurting her then you need to do more to stop expecting so much from her if you really love her you do whatever it takes to fix the situation and just go with what comes natural and that is loving her and working together to help each other. Take up reading the bible together it helps alot and Psalms is a wonderful book to start at.
2007-10-17 21:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by G girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is very difficult for you to accept the idea that other people will not match your expectations when you are absolutely perfect in every way. Since everything you do is always done to the highest standards and you never make a mistake, I can understand why you feel the way you do. Even when you gave the 10 commandments to Moses, your expectations were not realized when everyone didn't immediately obey the all. Perhaps you should just create another perfect person to be the "girl you love". You do have a problem, seek professional counseling for it.
2007-10-22 04:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expectation comes naturally...sometimes U realize it but sometimes U don't. But a few times the expectation not been met,U should lower the expectation & at the same time voice out what U expect from your partner or friend. But please be tolerate with your friends or partner as U alway need to think if they expect you to fulfill their need, what will U do? That's what they feel when U expect too much without consider their feeling & ability. Too much expectations will hurt U more...
2007-10-18 05:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by ling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don;t take everything seriously and don't expect people to live up to your expectations all the time. Maybe your standards are too high for some,so don't get mad when things don't turn out the way you expect it to be.make some allowance for failure.
2007-10-18 04:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by dicovi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋