I have been with my wife for 2 years she really is a wonderful person. She smiles when ever she sees me and I know she loves me with all our heart. Yeah, she does some chilish things sometimes but, thats only another reason I love her. For her Innocence.
For some reason, I have been looking at another woman.
She is an *** to me most of the time and glares almost all the time. Her ex died years ago and she tells me all time that she was not like this when she was with him. If all she did was hate me then, it would be easy to hate her back but... every so often when I push her, she tells be something personal and even hints that she does not hate me as much as she lets off.
She always seems to do it when I think its not worth the trouble too.. I know she is not as mean as she is trying to act and the few times we laughed together, I told myself: "I want to do this forever.."
God, I am in love with two people. I know its wrong and selfish but I cant help it! Advise anyone?
2007-10-17 21:31:57 · 26 answers · asked by Ince 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you truely love your wife you will not follow on this flirtation going on. There is really no harm in flirting, but you are close to crossing the border. If you want to maintain a friendship with this woman w/o the flirtation, that is not a problem, but you can't continue what you are doing. From what you said you feel guilty cause you love your wife. Your wife is loyal and you love her. This other woman is not even nice all the time and can really mess up a good thing with your marriage. You need to maintain a more professional relationship with the woman at work and remain faithful towards your wife. I dont know how old you are, but having been married for 2 years, it sounds like you are just curious if you made the right decision, and it sounds like you have a great wife. Don't wreck something so good. Best of luck
2007-10-17 21:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not a complete @sshole, young Skywalker...
but you do seem pretty dedicated to completing your training.:-)
There's not a married guy out there that doesn't know where you're coming from.
Ah but the real question is where are you going to.
I'm not going to tell you that crazy women aren't just a whole bunch of fun in bed. But trading in a stable loving woman for a bottomless pit of needs and wants just isn't a very good deal.
Stop acting like you can't think with the big head. Jeez.
And don't pretend this is about love either.
Love is considering the self interest of another as if it were your own.
So how is you having a mistress in you wife's self interest?
For that mater how is fooling around with a married man in your friends best interest?
Here's two things to help you make the rational choice.
If you focus on how great the extramarital sex will be, you haven't got a prayer. But if you focus on what it actually would be like to live with your hostile little nut job, resistance won't be a problem.
Before you do anything. Read "10 Stupid Things Men Do To Mess Up Their Lives."
Good Luck.
2007-10-18 05:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your in love with the second person its more wanting what you cant have, and the woman if she knows your married, is getting her rocks off in her own demented way. You need to either decide to be a complete a ss and try to go after the new woman and get yourself stomped and hope your wife forgives you when you try to crawl back ,or you can grow up and stop being emotionally constipated and treat your wife right by not having anything more to do with the devil woman....
2007-10-18 04:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by LadyVengeance 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there and let me tell you from experience that the grass is not greener on the other side. You will have the same sets of problems and headaches just with a different person. Try to work on your marriage if you love her and steer clear of trouble. You can salvage your marriage before its too late. Remember, divorce/adultery not only hurts the two involved it hurts everyone....family members, children...it's not worth it--Good luck!
2007-10-18 04:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling is not love, it called lust. You're turned on to the fact you know shouldn't have her and given that she lost someone she loved, you want to play the role of the saving hero.
Of course when all is said and done, you're just a fool. If you act on it and cheat on your wife, you will probably lose your wife and this girl will have nothing to do with you either.
You're a loser no matter what you do. A loser for cheating on your wife (emotionally) and a loser for trying to take advantage of someone.
2007-10-18 06:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by Infernal Disaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee. Do you want to ruin your relationship with your wife forever??
It seems like you are saying you are attracted to someone who is the complete opposite of your wife.
I don't know what to tell you other than get your stuff together. Think long and hard about where this situation could go.
2007-10-18 04:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by Debra S 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
okay when you marry your wife your suppose to be HER one and only. Just think of it this way, how would you feel if your wife was seeing another man, How does that make you feel. You can't have your cake and eat it too. It sounds like you love your wife to me and that this other girl is just a fling, If you really loved your wife you wouldn't be asking this question now would you?
2007-10-18 04:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Mallory 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't in love with this other woman. It's a game that keeps you interested. Stop talking to her. If you stay away from her you will likely fall head over heels for your wife again. You loved her and ONLY her once...remember?
2007-10-18 05:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reread what you wrote about this other woman. Now how do you feel about her? If you have half a brain, you'd run, not walk back to your sweet and silly wife. She's not even capable of playing those cheap, sadistic games with your head. HELLO???
2007-10-18 04:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wud u rather live with someone who smiled at u everytime they saw u out of pure joy or someone who acts like they hate you?? i think ur wife trumps this other woman. u never know, it cud just be a fling
2007-10-18 06:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋