My boyfriend's parents came over and I went out shopping the other day. The way I see it is "we're not married, they're not family yet anyway". I don't see why I have to talk to them when I have chores and shopping to do and I don't even know them. Agree?
2007-10-17 20:10:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You usually want them to have a good opinion of you if you will eventually their daughter in-law. And if you keep avoiding them, that's not exactly sending the right signal that you're excited to be part of their family.
2007-10-17 20:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not good, if you are planning a future with your bf. You don't want to start the problems before you even get married. It might have been best to sit with them for awhile, then excuse yourself to go shopping, saying that you will leave them alone to talk for a bit while you run your errands.
2007-10-17 20:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you don't talk to them, how can you get to know them? They might actually like you. Chores can wait. Or maybe his mother would like to go with you. You could find out really neat things about your boyfriend. Give them a chance, they could turn out to be very good friends.
2007-10-17 20:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't talk to them you won't know them will you? Don't you think it would have been polite to have been there? If you do get married they will be family so you'll have to meet them sometime. I can't see that it will have given them a good impression of you.
Do I agree with what you did? No.
2007-10-17 20:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to. In fact, you don't even have to talk to them even if you married, but maybe you want to? My fiance and I have been together for a few years now and when we moved in together we started regularly having dinners with his family and they started to consider me their daughter in-law (because they assumed we'd never actually make our marriage legal). If anything, meeting with them and seeing how your boyfriend is with his parents will help you develop a better idea of who your boyfriend is. Right now you see him in 'with the girlfriend' or 'with peers mode', but you may want to know him better than that and having a meal with him and his parents might not be a bad idea.
2007-10-17 20:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by some female 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 08:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your boyfriend's parents and should be treated with respect. If it's something that can be postponed, you should. You want to marry this guy? You'd better like or at least tolerate his parents. And treat them as you would your own. They are a major point of interest in his life. He will appreciate this. If you absolutely cannot postpone your errands, be courteous and apologetic before making your exit. Please trust me on this one.
2007-10-17 20:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how serious you are, and whether or not you would like to have a good relationship with them when and if you DO get married. What's the harm?
2007-10-17 20:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by Mistress Lucy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It just makes it easier later on if you choose to marry this guy....... 1st impressions are everything..and what was their first impression of you?
A shopping and cleaning addict! lol... you go girl!
at least their son would have cute new clothes, and a clean house if he chooses to marry you.
2007-10-18 02:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have to speak to them. Ever. You don't have to ever speak to anyone who comes to visit you for that matter. However, you'll soon discover that others will consider you a rude person and you may become lonely.
2007-10-17 20:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋