I don't know what to do about buying gifts for my nephews' live-in girlfriends. On one hand, I feel like it would be rude not to buy them anything. However, I haven't met one of them (although I will meet her before Christmas and they are officially engaged as of yesterday) and the other one I cannot stand and therefore don't actually want to buy her anything at all! I think now that nephew #1 is engaged means that his significant other should rate higher than a live-in girlfriend and that maybe I should buy her a little something but I know this will hurt nephew #2's girlfriend's feelings if she found out but truth be told I don't want to spend a nickel on her!
I have thought about giving them both a consumable gift, like Christmas cookies or caramel corn as a joint present with the boys so feelings don't get hurt but I am not sure if this is acceptable.
How should I approach this potentially sticky situation?
2007-10-17 19:30:51 · 7 answers · asked by eunosgirl 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I don't know anyone that buys gifts for their nephew's girlfriends. Heck, I don't know anyone that buys gifts for nephews that are over age 12.
Christmas gifts are for immediate family and close friends and that's about it. There's no obligation to buy for the entire family tree as well as the entire family tree's significant others. Besides, if you buy them something then they're going to feel obligated to buy you something. Since they don't really know you, then that's going to be very irritating for everyone involved.
Nothings ruins the holidays more than Christmas Shopping.
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2007-10-18 02:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Chad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get both women a small, token gift.
e.g. set of scented soaps from Caswell & Massey, a scented candle, hand & body lotion
something to eat, drink (fancy tea or coffee, bottle of wine or sparkling wine, gourmet chocolates or cookies) - Food or drink items are good because chances are they will be shared w/ your nephews. ; )
a calendar, small gift cards for a bookstore or coffee shop
You nephew & his fiancee may have an engagement party or some other occasion where you can give them a present as a couple.
As for the other nephew's girlfriend, you may not be able to stand her but your nephew is still w/ her & you don't want to make him feel bad or awkward.
2007-10-17 19:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by Treadstone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went last year at christmas time to meet my (no fiances) family, and I was extremely nervous, his aunt got me a candle and some air freshners and made some cookies. I thought that was awesome of her seeing as if I hadnt met her. I knew his parents and everyone just his distant family I didnt.
I would give the two couples some things for the house, maybe christmas themed decorations, or some candles in a basket, just make up small baskets for them, that way everything is kind of general and not something someone can go eww whatd she get me that for.
Also the fiances brother and his wife (whom were not close to) got us a gift certificate to movie theater.
2007-10-18 19:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't do anything to hurt anyone's feelings on christmas, especially if it's going to potentially hurt one of your nephews as well. i'm sure most of us have someone in our family (usually an in-law) we don't really care for. we suck it up during the holidays for the ones we love.
as far as gifts....gift cards are safe. you could always find some inexpensive lotion/body gel sets, a nice hat/mitten/scarf set, manicure set, pretty sweaters, inexpensive necklace, cd's. you could always call your nephews and see if they have any suggestions.
2007-10-17 20:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if both girlfriends are live-in and now one engaged I would skim over the hassle by buying them something for their homes like a plant so that both people are covered in one gift
2007-10-17 23:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by sandiemay01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as how you haven't met either one of them, you shouldn't feel obligated to get them a gift. Chances are, they won't get you a gift. Your nephews aren't going to love you any less and I doubt they'd get their feelings hurt. But if you really want to give them a token gift, I would go with chocolates. Everyone likes chocolate.
2007-10-17 19:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Areally nice Christmas card is always in style.
2007-10-18 15:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by peppersham 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋