why cant my wife who is leaving me over something that happened .5. years ago just forgive me and stay rather than go .when i was well fooling around with this now ex. married woman .she lives .5. states from us. my wife contacted this women.s .ex. husband. she has called him and knows he is.53. but dont look his age my wife is .20 aand planning on divorcing me she meet him while telling me she went to visit her mom. but meet him and talked to him . she had the nerve to tell me he was a very good man and had respect aat all times . that sounds like him . this i know from past meeting.s when i ws in that state . why cant she let him alone and forget my mistake. after all that was.5. years ago
2007-10-17 18:59:58 · 10 answers · asked by matthew v 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it was his now.ex. wifes idea what happned between us .when i was in that state.5. years ago not mine..as to what happened between her as well me as well ..
2007-10-17 19:02:54 · update #1
well seem.s like you got yourself into this right and did you ever at that time even think of your wife no you didnt pal she is doing you right as to what you did i dont blame her at all for leaving your sorry ***. she can do better in my honest opion . ?
2007-10-17 19:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saving a marriage after a spouse cheating takes A LOT of work and commitment on both ends. If she simply can't rebuild her trust for you, there's not much you can do about it. People in this situation should REALLY attend counseling because 99% of the time, couples cannot defeat this on their own.
Sit down with her and ask her if she wants to work on saving your marriage. Honestly. If her answer is "no," I'm afraid you're just going to have to live with that. If she says she'd like to work on it, BOTH of you need to do your part to repair what is broken. Professional help will most definitely be needed. If you cannot afford counseling, try going to your local church. They usually have marriage counseling for cheaper prices or sometimes even free.
2007-10-17 19:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you betrayed her confidence and trust in you. It is obvoius you are not truly sorry or repentive yes it may have been 5 years ago but you still hurt her and wounded her deeply, how would you feel if she did that to you? like the old country song goes there are consequences sneaking under other peoples fences.
2007-10-17 19:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't you see that she's hurting? emotional pain hurts a hell of a lot more than physical pain or don't you know that?
tell her that your truly sorry and remind her of the reasons you love her and need only her in your life! Tell her that you want to go to counseling together to help fix the void and pain that she's feeling so that you two can get back to the love you both feel for each other.
Good luck!
was it actually worth all of this?
don't EVER let this happen again! life is shorter than you think, find someone that you love and loves you back and love them til the day you die!
2007-10-17 19:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by TM25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you had a fling while your wife would have been 15 at the time? Sorry this doesn't add up
2007-10-17 19:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
1 you stuffed up once how dose she know your not now
2 well its always at the back of her mind
i think good on her hope she finds some one who can stay with her and treat her good
you should have though of her first
2007-10-17 19:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because some people cannot get past the having sex with another woman , so apparently you married 1 of those
2007-10-17 19:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by jojo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what was your question again??
OH yeah, don't worry- your soon to be ex wife will find somebody else to love- and live happily ever after..
so kind of you to be concerned about her!
2007-10-18 02:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are consequences associated with commiting adultery. You are experiencing them.
2007-10-17 20:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd be wanting to divorce u too! u shouldnt've had a fling ANYWAY GENIOUS
2007-10-17 19:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by Believe It Or Not 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋