My bf and I have a great relationship and we are very much in love. But he told me that his ex gf climaxed almost every time they had sex. I have difficulty coming through penetration ( but not through oral sex or masturbation). Ever since finding out that his gf came through sex alone, I feel very hurt, inadequate, and insecure. How can I feel better? How can I keep this from affecting my relationship? Is it normal to feel this way?
2007-10-17 18:57:05 · 7 answers · asked by ............ 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Every woman's body is different. Some women will always need extra stimulation to have an orgasm. Just because your boyfriends ex was able to have one through penetration doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you! Your feelings are normal, but you can get over them! Your boyfriend loves you, you love him, and his past is just that...his past. If you don't want to hear about it, of course you can tell him to no longer talk about it.
You need to relax when it comes to sex. Sometimes women can work too hard to get to the big O and we end up being too out of it, in the mind sense. Our bodies can be there, but woman's biggest sexual organ is her mind. Let yourself relax, engage in more foreplay, enjoy yourself when you have sex, and don't worry if you don't have an orgasm through penetration. Don't feel inadequate to that woman, you have the love and the man and you can work through this. Good luck!
2007-10-17 19:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm more of a fighter... If her EX can do it i know i'm far better! i don't want to be compared! I always want to stand out. Give him the best experience he'll ever had and dumped him afterwards! You'll had your vengeance! (Joke but half ment)
Girl, you have other lovable traits rather than sex! Believe in yourself if he can't appreciate that, leave him. There are other man who deserves you!
2007-10-17 19:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he really loved you he would have never compared you with his ex???
tell him goodbye and you cam be back with her.
y should you feel bad for that. cheer up// may be the fault him is within him ..
tell him you are hurt and you cant continue in a relationship where there is comparision between two..
this is the beginning many more to come..
2007-10-17 20:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 01:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever try rubbing your clit at the same time he's boink'n you? Maybe that's what his ex did to get off everytime. You should try it.
2007-10-17 19:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
get a new boy friend your feeling will only get worse
he had no business compairing you with her..
may be it was delibrate on his part.
and he may have second thoughts,
that is why he is comparing.
2007-10-17 19:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jan B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he told you that to cover up for his failure to please you. he should be trying to put the effort to try new things to help you and work it out instead of compare you with others. thats hurtful
2007-10-17 19:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by 0000 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋