Do you and the Mrs's have little fantasy's you share? Or do you keep then to yourself?
2007-10-17 18:17:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's healthy to have fantasies that you share together and ones you keep to yourself.
Also, if you have some to yourself, later on in the marriage, after a good long while has passed, you can bring the unspoken fantasy of yours out in the open and enjoy it as an added spice.
2007-10-17 18:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by shellj_foxy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO SHARE A FANTASY. THE OTHER PERSON CAN ADD SO MUCH TO THE MIX THAT YOU NEVER THOUGHT OF. THE INTERACTION OF SHARING A FANTASY AND THE INTIMACY OF SHARING A SECRET FANTASY BRINGS ABOUT CLOSENESS FOR SOME COUPLES. ONLY UP-TIGHT PEOPLE DON'T WANNA PLAY THE FANTASY GAME. OR THOSE WHO ARE MADE ABOUT OTHER THINGS IN THE RELATIONSHIP. GOOD LUCK.
2007-10-18 01:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies about other people or about each other? Sometimes we share our fantasies about others (usually celebrities) with each other and those later get translated into one of us fulfilling the fantasy as ourselves or with an "alter ego". We always share our fantasies about what we want to see from each other. That's always fun because it's an ego boost for both of us. I know I'm turning him on and he knows I'm indulging his fantasy. As long as the fantasies aren't hurtful (like, I want to do it outside with a girl who has DD's and is 5'9" when your wife is an A and 5'1"), then they should be shared and encouraged to be fulfilled by your significant other. It's a win win!
2007-10-18 01:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by rainbowreggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Question Mr. Music man..
YES.... having fantasy's are AWESOME...I cant speak for all the women out there... but for me to have someone to share it with ..makes it all that more sex-citing...
What a feeling it is to be able to live out some of your fantasy's..
I have been known to have a few of my own...in fact one of my fantasy's was to sleep with another women... after doing some soul ......searching so to speak... I found the women that I wanted to share this fantasy with... it was AWESOME !!! I knew it was just a fantasy.. and I also knew that I didn't want to stay on that side of the fence....so to speak.. but I also believe that communication plays a big factor when living out a fantasy...you and your partner have to have a clear understanding what it is that you expect out of each other.... meaning.. another fantasy of mine is to have a threesome.. me and my boyfriend and another girl... but like I said.. there has to be an understanding with all involved ..if for some reason my boyfriend felt uncomfortable with that... I would totally respect his wishes... like I said... you have to communicate ...
So...go ahead and share them thar fantasy's with your partner.. how sex-citing is that !!!
2007-10-18 05:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its best if you dont share them. Once you reveal your fantasys then its no longer a fantasy. Keep at least one to urself...trust me on this one. A fantasy will never let you down...its the real thing once you get it that may disappoint you.
2007-10-18 01:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by bored s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad!! If you keep on secretly having fantasies or sharing them either way, your marriage will no longer satisfy you. We are really suppose to be happy with our spouse in every way, but now days sex, sex, sex is everywhere and easy to come by. The more people get the more twisted they become. It was designed to stay in the bedroom privately between man & wife and no one else, including fantasy's. Marriage is nothing but a word anymore, hell the paper doesn't even mean a thing. ................
2007-10-18 01:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
We definitely share our fantasies! Let's face it, just because you are married doesn't mean you aren't attracted to other people, etc. And role-playing is a hell of a lot of fun.
2007-10-18 07:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by Vera C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely a good thing. Do not keep it bottled up! Sharing is a 2-way process, you could be in store for good things!
2007-10-18 01:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Myself 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I write stories for her to read. I write about different fantasies. Some are mine and some are ones that I think she would like. They are all personalized. Then every so often we have story night and I will read them to her. Seems to work.
2007-10-18 01:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by cobblejoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own style. There are some things that are just yours, and others that you share -- only you can decide what is what. Personally, I would go for the spice and share the naughty thoughts!
2007-10-18 01:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by city_vixen21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋