i met this married guy three months ago, he invited me to go out & have dinner since Ive helped him in a certain business project. We had fun together although we both knew that were comitted. Still, we continue to hang out. One time, we were both drunk and something happened to us. I try to end it since weve gone through very quick. But he keeps on saying he loves me so much & vice versa. Now, i felt guilty & trying to get him out of my life, but he keeps on calling & texting me.... I really feel sorry for my husband, most of all, i felt guilty. How can i end it up to him? Knowing the he throws away all my worries in life and he brighten my day. Even im saying goodbye... my heart says no. What should I do?
2007-10-17 17:51:53 · 7 answers · asked by cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Follow your heart what tells you to.Listen to this, I had a friend who had exactly the same story as what you had.Neither do her never expected it.They were both comitted too.The story was my friend saw this guy 1st,and the guy seemed to be attracted to her coz the way the guy looked at her was so special.They became friends than,texting each other and asking about the business at first, and even sharing each other's problems.As they went on,..They both felt there's a strong Chemistry between them.They only went out once for a cup of coffee.My friend doesn't want it at first,coz she's afraid that people may see them together,and she's also afraid that it will happen all over again..So it's better that way...But,the guy seemed insistent and hard to resist...They both went out...nothing serious happened yet.They both falling through sending messages.One time,the guy texted and telling her that he dreamt of making love with her.And he was asking her,what could this dream is trying to tell.My friend got scared though,coz she said the guy was married and she doesn't wanna become the 3rd party and ruin d relationship.The guy said the same thing to her aswell.They decided to let go one night...but they both couldn't sleep.The guy called her and was in tears,he said..he don't wanna let go...he tried..but he just can't...He said this could be fate.In such a long time,he resisted temptations,but why now?he said that God could have given him chance to meet someone like her,who will give him more care and love,that he can never find to the wife...And he was saying that the feelings he felt for her is even more stronger compared to what he felt with the wife before he met his wife...So they both decided to go on...Coz my friend husband seems to having an affair outside too,so she thought why not...But,now it seems that the relationship are getting more stronger,and the love.Now they've been 2gether for two years,but both are still comitted.They just take the relationship easily,and hoping one day,If they are really both fated even when they grow older,they still wanna spend the rest of their lives together...They're both guilty but,this is their "destiny".We're just human.nobody is perfect.Especially now we're in modern days...you decide what u think is better for you...In Marriage,not every one is happy.But if you are,fix it...
2007-10-17 18:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by hey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not opposed to dating another race/nationality. I've even tried, but for some reason I always end up with white. That is what I'm mostly attracted to. Both my X husbands are white and my current beau is white. When I was younger and between husbands, I wondered if I could rise above the bigotry of some (many) members of my family. So I dated black men and men of other nationalities, none of which I found that ultimate connection with. The last guy, a very sweet and funny black man said something to me that I'll never forget. He said,"I really like you, and have enjoyed spending time with you, but I could never take you home to my momma" So many of us are the same, in we just can't over come our own families. Now that I'm older and looking back, just because you don't date outside of your race or nationality doesn't make you racists. And for those who do have the strength to overcome the stereotypes of your family and society; kudos to you. But for those of you who can't don't worry about it; If the love that was there had been strong enough you would have. I firmly believe that you can't help who you are attracted to or fall in love with.
2016-05-23 07:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by helga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experiencing 'new' love is really very exciting, whether for man or woman.
But what will be the consequences? Especially if one of you is committed / married?
Are you willing to give up you current family? Do you value them?
Whatever your decision.....you have to be tough in dealing with that.
Run as fast as you can, while you can still escape. If you really wanted to end the relationship with your 'fling' ... he cannot persuade you no matter how much he insist.
Think about your family. There are still so many things to work it out.
Having a happy and complete family (till the end) is what I believe the best completion of our life.
WIN it over these trials in life.
Goodluck!
2007-10-17 18:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by always confuse 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are on the verge of losing your husband over this affair. This guy is worthless if he wants to continue it and cheat on his wife. Chances are if your husband gets wind of this and give you the heave-ho your lover will ditch you also rather than leave his family and get a divorce. Wake up and smell the roses sweetie.
2007-10-17 18:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by sailorboy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
realize something , he is robbing his wife of what he promised her when they got married and your doing the same to your husband , and affairs never really work out they just leave you empty and show you that you can't be trusted , nobody likes it when they find themselves a failure , so just end it , the longer you put it off the worse you'll feel
2007-10-17 18:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This affair will ultimately cost you your husband. It is already costing you your self-respect.
This married guy is using you, and probably has had a string of girls just like you.
Don't sell yourself short.
2007-10-17 18:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
follow your heart
2007-10-17 17:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by cutie pie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋