my hubbys is cheating... and I want to know who this girl is...
sangidsis15@aol.com
how can I find out??
2007-10-17 17:47:21 · 9 answers · asked by LiLmamma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he just deployed to iraq. Im 9 months pregnant...i want to know
2007-10-17 17:55:52 · update #1
long story...hes done it before. I hacked into his email.
she had wrote him calling him sexy *** and what not, and said she loved him, xoxoxo ya im not stupid. I just wanna know who she is...i wrote her back asking her what she was thinking about lately. so I will see what she says soon.
2007-10-17 18:08:15 · update #2
Hun I know it's hard being a pregnant wife with a deployed husband. Boy do I ever know. Circumstances are different for military wifes. Anyone of us could tell ya that as I am sure you know.
You need to make you mind up; Stay with him or leave him. I know it's hard because he's deployed and all this is timed very poorly.
What do you hope to accomplish by finding this girl? Will it change your mind as far as staying with your husband? Either way, if you find her or not, he made the choice to cheat. Now you have a choice to make.
Follow your heart and do what is best for you and baby.
Also congrats on the baby. Hubby or not, most people dream of angels and you will get to hold one!
2007-10-17 18:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I know what i would do, and that would be to walk away with my baby and never ever see the lying cheating scumbag again. I know this is a hard thing to do and i am speaking from experience, i really wanted to see who the other woman was, but i never saw her and now 5 years down the line i am glad. Why beat yourself up over something that is not your fault. Yes i would email her and i would tell her who you are that you are 9 months pregnant and that you hope she is proud of herself for having an affair with your husband, and i would also say that she is welcome to him, because as the saying goes Once a Cheater always a Cheater, My ex husband is Army he is actually a Major in the British army, and because of them being away they find it very easy to cheat. Keep your dignity, i am sure you will. But one thing is for sure you will never ever trust your husband again, and as i have said before without trust you have nothing. Good Luck.
2007-10-18 09:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can find out a phone # do a reverse phone look up.It will give you a name and address even on a cell phone. Its easy to follow someone if you put a small hole in the tail light lense, it will shine like a beacon and you can follow without being noticed. If he's not cheating you really do need to apologize. Make sure,have you just flat out asked him? try to communicate
2007-10-18 01:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by lovie m steiner 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Email her and tell her to stay away from your husband. Then email hubby and tell him that he tells her to bug off or you will take the kid and leave him, and take everything he has. Then call legal on base....tell them he is cheating on you............. he can get kicked out for conduct unbecoming. You can really make him miserable if you so desire. Good Luck
2007-10-18 01:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not exactly sure how you can do that but if you find out please be careful for your babys sake...
i agree with Lauren B --and this is such a great quote
"Also congrats on the baby. Hubby or not, most people dream of angels and you will get to hold one!"
2007-10-18 01:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mia ღ AJ ღ Faithy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've had this problem and i'm a military wife too honey. best way to get the answer you want is ask your husband. if you know him well enough, you can tell if he's lying by the tone of his voice. good luck.
2007-10-18 05:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Chaseee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should email her and ask her who she is and act like you know nothing and confront him about it when you have all of the info....I would do it for you but I am not sure that you'd want me to....how do you know that he is cheating? If you email me I can help you out more with this....
2007-10-18 01:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out where he is going. Follow him. Or show up to where they are. Have someone else follow him. How did you find out? If someone told you start with them. Maybe they know. Why do you want to know who she is. It is not her fault it is his. (unless it is your friend or your sister) She might not even know about you. Good luck dear I have been in your shoes.
2007-10-18 00:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why not ask your husband who she is? Don't tell me you are one of those women who is going to entirely blame the other woman for their husband's cheating ways.....
2007-10-18 00:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋