I am wondering cause I want to ask this one guy if he is gay so that I can ask him out, but I would feel so bad to put someone on the spot like that, does anyone ever feel freeked when someone asks you if you are gay and you think they are gay too? Should I just keep flirting or should I be more direct about it? I don't want to have him be all uncomforatble and not answer honestly, what are the odds he will answer truthfully? I am so confused on what to do... PLEASE HELP!!
2007-10-17 17:46:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
just keep flirting,making it obvious that u like him
2007-10-20 04:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by tasty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 00:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unless i thought you were gay and you asked i'd probably tell the truth, so i'd say flirt a lot, make sure he gets some idea of what you are, then ask him, if he's comfortable that you will be ok and still be a good friend, then he should tell the truth. If you just popped it on him randomly, i'd say if he was in the closet u'd have about a 40% chance of him telling you, but only because u probably wouldn't be asking if you weren't going to like him if he was, but anywayz, good luck, i know how you feel, i'm kinda in that position too.
2007-10-17 22:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jimmie Kezza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be too direct. If he's not out, or not comfortable with things, you'll just push him away. Best to just see how things go.
However, if you are determined to ask him, make sure it's not at work, or in front of other people, be tactful.
If he's straight acting, you could freak him out by asking him, especially in front of everyone. Maybe the best way would be to do it subtly. Find out the kind of places he goes out, if he's seeing anyone right now, etc. But not too much, otherwise he'll know, and you'll just push him away.
2007-10-18 00:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by dev2c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are things ever going to move on with acceptance if we are not brave enough to come out and ask I usually ask within 5 minutes of meeting ,but there again I'm a predatory frustrated old Queen !
2007-10-22 21:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one :-) I am not closeted and still react negatively when someone ask that, just as a reaction to a stupid question. But sometimes it is honestly asked. I think it is better to just ask him if he wants to grab beer (or coffee, or soda, or whatever) sometime and go from there.
2007-10-17 17:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile and inch a half a foot closer. Shot the breeze and talk about they weather and stall for ten minute you ask then or french kiss him by the way his veye move or if he's standoffish.
2007-10-17 17:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by sparkles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! If you have been flirtiing and he's not running then e is either very dim or gay. Give yourself a chance! Ask him out!
2007-10-18 01:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to know whether he is gay or not, try talking about women when you are staying with him alone, then you can find out his attitude. After you confirmed he is gay, you can let him know your feeling about him.
2007-10-17 18:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Littlestar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him but don't tell that you are unless he says he is. Tell him you were just wondering that there was no reason and you wouldn't think any less of him if he was, that way you in no way reveling that you are. Good luck!!!
2007-10-17 17:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by earth_n_sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't "out " him
just smile, flirt like crazy, sit a bit closer to him and "accidentally" brush against him
You could also tell him this rude but good joke
Whisper in his ear " What's pink and likes oral s*x?"
When he answers i don't know, stick your tongue in his ear!!!!
If he laughs and doesn't recoil in horror, whisper back, do you want me to show you.......
works for me lol
2007-10-17 22:05:27 · answer #11 · answered by cmcconnachie2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋