i got married when i was 19 (only one month and a half before 20) and they all thought i was pregnant or something because i wanted to get married so young...
I WAS NOT preggo!
I AM NOT preggo at the moment.
we just loved each other and wanted to be with each other...
we both make great money...we have our own place...no one helps us financially...we get along great (well most of the time) and we love and respect each other!
we are a family of three...my son walks on all fours and barks (Petey, he's a yorkie)
we have been going strong and we have been married for a year on december 2nd!
my question is....why would people think i was pregnant? it hurt because i was a virgin until my wedding night....
2007-10-17 17:36:54 · 12 answers · asked by Mia ღ AJ ღ Faithy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh i dont look pregnant, they just assumed i must have been
2007-10-17 17:50:22 · update #1
we are waiting until we turn at least 24, we like traveling and with children we know everything changes...so we do want to have kids but not anytime soon. we want to enjoy each other
2007-10-17 17:58:20 · update #2
People should mind their own business and not make unkind assumptions you got married do you know how many people don't and just hang around and live together have casual sex and have babies out of wedlock with no thought or recourse of a lifetime faithful bonafide(genuine) commitment in marriage? I am proud of you that you waited until you were married that shows a lot of maturity and self control a quality lacking in relationships today. I waited until I was married and so did my husband we are married 14 years next week. Age has nothing to do with being married I know couples that married later in life and much older than you that are already divorced. You are very practical and sensible and I am proud of you. Be encouraged Here are some hugs for you and Petey0000000000000000000000000000000000
2007-10-17 19:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has to do with the way our society was in the past. As modern as we think we are now, we still hold on to that type of thinking and frankly, it's not likely to change any time soon.
But if you are as happy as you say you are, I don't see why you are taking this so hard. It should be an opportunity for you to laugh in their faces and yet you sound like you are pleading a case.
People will always talk about you no matter what you do. If you remain a 'family of three' for the next ten years, the gossip will change to your possible fertility issues.
Only you know what your reasons were, so just shrug off the other stuff.
2007-10-17 17:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Nika 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, and real??????????? Couples who're childless through option are happier than couples with kids. Google any authority, and survey, wherever. Kids don't seem to be bonding, they're divisive. Into your attractive, comfortable little dating arrives this shreiking child annoying extra , and might be you and she or he as a pair simply wouldn't have any longer to deliver..........We all were bought a invoice of crap that baaayyyyyyyyyyybeeeeeeees are soooo romantic. And they aren't. They are difficult paintings, and so much are ungrateful. Each charges $250,000 to elevate to age 18, which entails just a stomach of low-cost meals, plastic toys a laptop, television and a few dope in hs. (Yahoo determine final yr). We opted out of the youngster factor, and neither people has been sorry one nanosecond... no longer as soon as. We journey, great residence, great events, great peers, great automobiles, purchase something we desire, each have gorgeous jobs, paintings difficult, and cash simply is not a predicament. I'd exchange areas with no person. 30% of white youngsters now are living with simply mother, and sixty two% of black ones do, so for definite, they aren't bonding, are they? It was once that you just have been instead anticipated to have kids whilst you married, however no longer any longer. And as ladies age somewhat, and get out into the truly global, the youngster fever of the teenager years, wherein a youngster was once the ultra-modern style accent relatively does fade. If I needed to are living my existence over, I'd threat not anything... no longer at some point. I under no circumstances desired youngsters then, and I under no circumstances transformed.... except at 6.7+ billion humans on the earth going to eight.three in simply 30 years????? This little planet demands not more progress. We've approximately destroyed the one dwelling all of us have through overpopulation.
2016-09-05 13:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! I am sure that it hurt your feelings. I cannot imagine what it must of took to maintain your virginity. You have a conviction that I admire. Especially of your age and generation where sex is treated so light heartedly. Unfortunately, it is because of this that people assumed you were pregnant. Turn on any channel on tv and what do you see? Young people married with children, who should not be, it is like an epidemic. I have to say that I have been guilty myself of this stereotype, but honestly, can you blame us? Don't be offended because you know the truth of the matter. You and your husband restore some hope for me for what the future might bring. Good luck!
2007-10-17 17:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by wamom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm assuming that because not very many young people at your age are ready for marriage. even some adults are scared to get married (commitment issues). so when someone your age does get married, society assumes there must have been something wrong/or preggo.
life is good for you (congrats) who cares what people think. try not to worry about what others say (in everything you do) people are going to talk no matter what. just do what you feel is the right thing to do.
2007-10-17 18:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats the way people think, ok! since you're young and don't know this...many years ago when a young woman get married because she want to have a baby or she is pregnant. I not leave love out of the reason but what I understand it was the best thing for the unborn child.
2007-10-17 17:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always want to assume the worst of others. I actually had someone ask me at my wedding when the baby was due. And no I didn't look pregnant I only weighed 120#. Don't worry about what they say. You know the truth. Don't worry about fighting. Everyone has disagreements.
2007-10-17 17:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because that's the way society is these days. Gone were the days when people married young because they wanted to be with someone their age who they knew were right for them. Doesn't matter what other people think. All that matters is that you and your hubby love eachother.
2007-10-17 17:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, many young couples get married for that reason. But, don't let that affect you. Only a busybody person would say something like that. Enjoy your marriage, and don't listen to anyone else.
2007-10-17 19:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what other people think. When it's all said and done, it will be you and your family living a happy little life, so who cares what their gossip consists of? You just keep going the way you are.
2007-10-17 20:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋