He says that he would like to be a part of the babies life, but I think that if they are not married, then the baby should have her last name. Any ideas or previous experience with this?
2007-10-17 17:33:39 · 18 answers · asked by clueless 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
Give the babies her name. If they marry they can change the name no problem. If they don't life will be so much easier for her and the baby. The child will feel it belongs and is part of the family, not seperate with a different last name. I fshe really wants his last name at very least put both!
2007-10-17 17:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughter's first baby was with a bf who she didn't have a future with. She gave her little girl her own last name. The dad loves her but has little to do her. If they are not a couple I think the baby should have her mother's last name.
I think that if a chld goes to school and has a different name than her or his mom it makes it difficult.
The bf has little to say about the name if they aren't married.
She can or can't accept his ideas. It is totally up to her.Even if he is a dad to her or supports her some, I believe the baby needs to be given mom's last name. Otherwise it would be a lifetime of explaining they why that your daughter & child have different last names.
Now my daughter has a longterm bf and they would marry they would lose their health care. She has a two year old boy with him. She gave him his father;s name.....the complete name , making him a JR. Now they are expecting a little girl in January. That baby will also be named the father's last name. I struggle with my daughter & her daughter won't have the same last name as the other children or the father.
I suggested that my daughter & her oldest daughter legally change their names. But, she is holding out that eventually they can afford to be married. Eventually her oldest daughter will change her last name. Or so I am told. To, me life was easier then people got married then had babys.
2007-10-17 18:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can do either. My mother did not give me or my brothers our fathers last name I gave birth to our first daughter and did give her, her fathers last name. I was married with the second so she got it too.
Its really just a choice. If she plans on marrying or getting back with him I would give the baby his name, especially if they might get married. Its really expansive to change a name. But if he turns out to be a bad guy or its doubtful he'll have much intrest in the baby then I would go with her last name.
Good luck this is a tough situation.
2007-10-17 17:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by Justine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on where at you live. Knowing from the State I live in I had to fill out a paper to find my name on the baby's birth certificate and for him to have my last name.But in a lot of places it is up to the mother on what the babys last name will be. and if they do stick with the mothers name they have so long to change it to the fathers name at the hospital then they will have to go to court to get it done.
2007-10-17 21:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kaspur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think especially if it is a boy he would prefer to have his fathers name when he gets older. My parents were never married or together when I was born but I have my fathers last name and I am greatful for that. It makes me feel more like a part of his half of the family.
2007-10-17 18:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't thing that a future wedding is the reason to give the baby his father's name. The child should have a name that reflects who his family is, and if he will be raised by mom, grandma, ect... then, he should have Mom's last name. If the father's family is positive about the child and the rearing process, then perhaps the kid should have that family's name. It helps when there are "picking up from school" issues when you prove your last name is the child's last name.
2007-10-17 18:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could very depending on your state so you may want to double check however in most states a child may be given any last name. It does not need to be the fathers, nor the mothers for that matter.
I have not heard of any states that require the baby to have a particular last name, but again you may want to double check.
2007-10-17 17:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by betoandbran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, the baby can have whatever last name the mother wants. It doesn't even have to be her name. She and the father should come to an agreement about how to name the baby, especially if he says he wants to be involved.
2007-10-17 17:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by WordNerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a daughter from a previous relationship her father and I were still together when she was born and received her father's last name we seperated shortly after I am now in a relationship and about to be married I suggested to my soon to be husband that we change my daughters name to my maiden last name- hyphenated will her fathers so that way she still has her fathers last name and My soon to be husband and I could hyphenate our future childrens names My maiden name- hyphenated with his so that way daughter still blended with the rest of our family and for instance say my maiden name was smith and my soon to be husbands name was brown we could still put smith-brown on our mailbox and my daughter would not be excluded
2007-10-17 17:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by raven1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby does not have to have its father's last name. But it is the decision of the child's parents what its name should be.
2007-10-17 17:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by julz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋