I noticed that our son was very wet after he had been holding him a while so I said that he made me sick because he's to lazy to change him. Then he said that to me. He has no respect for me. I don't know what to do anymore.
2007-10-17 16:51:11 · 22 answers · asked by ... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to go to counseling. Both of you have terrible communication skills.
2007-10-17 16:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would have put the child down in another room then rammed his face into the mirror to show him how sick he made me.
Why do you tolerate a jerk like that who obviously doesnt give a rats if the child gets nappy rash or sick or what ever.Then speak to you that way in front of your child?
Leave NOW.
2007-10-17 17:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like neither one of you knows how to communicate in a positive, loving way. I'm sure it really frustrated you that he didn't get up to change the kid but the way you phrased it only made your husband defensive. Men already feel insecure over their fathering skills without their wives making them feel like complete idiots. You need to encourage and teach your husband with patience and not talking down to him. He reacted like a teenager - he felt insecure and threatened so he gave that right back to you. The 2 of you need to learn how to communicate like adults if you're ever going to get along and feel love or respect for each other.
2007-10-17 17:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is common in your relationship then you both need to talk to someone about it. If you really want him to help out and not lash out at you, then you need to speak to him with a little bit of respect, too. Your words sort of attacked him, and he responded to you in the same manner. He was probably embarassed that you called him on it, and rather than admit it he acted angry and hostile, too.
Obviously he knew the diaper needed changing, but try bringing it to his attention in a nicer manner next time.
2007-10-17 17:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you said wasn't to nice either. Sure he is a lazy bum but it is best to keep things like that to yourself, he didn't really mean it but you hurt him and he was getting even with you. My husband and I go on like that all the time but we know that we don't really mean it.
2007-10-17 17:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him all the things you do for him and your son. Tell him that you deserve respect. If he disrespects you even more, then i guess you need to make some serious changes within your marriage.
Should you stay, or should you go....?
2007-10-17 16:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi
You nick scares me...just me... You are important and u need to understand that for your child happiness!! for u !! Put that man away or at least in the place he belongs ...out of the planet!! be sure to put IT (not him) farrrrrrrrrrrrrrr from me.
take care of you and your son
2007-10-17 17:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow that is just as bad as my husband say, "if you got pregnant now, the sight of you would make me sick." it's just an immature quip because they can't think of anything better to say. sad, isn't it?
2007-10-17 22:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Chaseee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like kids fighting.. you told him he made you sick but then he says it and its not ok.. well first off both are a wrong way of going about it.. you shouldnt be fighting like that anyway.. if it continues for the rest of your lifes wouldnt that be just wasted time and hard living..it dont happen in our house.. we talk.. no fighting.. and please do not do it in front of the child.. good luck
2007-10-17 17:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He does have zero respect for you. By allowing him to take his frustrations and stress out on you, you're showing little self respect, yourself. I was married to one of these. Talking seldom helps. Counseling may. I wish you the best.
2007-10-17 16:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋