I've been dating a guy for about 8 months now. we r from diff cultures (sometimes it becomes prominent cuz we have slight communication problem, we both speak good english btw) but we do love each other. the problem is my parents r pushing me to have an arranged marriage with this other guy and they keep convincing me that cultural diff will become a big problem for my boyfriend and I....what should I do...Im having arguments with my parents every day cuz of this!
2007-10-17 16:28:18 · 9 answers · asked by kera 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
follow your heart on this one...your parents love you and want the best for you, but you have to remember that it's your life...you don't want to miss out on something wonderful for something you were forced into...do what you KNOW is right
2007-10-17 16:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready for marriage then stick to you guns.!
Marriage and relationships are hard enough as it is, imagine being forced into an arranged marriage with someone you had a communication problem with ?
There would be no escape and it's not fair for your parents as much as they love you to manipulate the current situation you find yourself in with your boyfriend
Only you can judge when the time feels right, and because they love you, they should trust your judgement, your not ruling the idea out, your just not ready for it yet , good luck :)
2007-10-18 05:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by CLAIRE P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im assuming you are of an asian background...am i right??
..plz think things thoroughly before you go into it...sometimes arranged marriages CAN work out...and sometimes they they dont.
Be open to your parents, or discuss this issue with another close member of your family expressing YOUR own opinions why you dont want to go through this. No-one should be forced into an arranged marriage if they dont want to....sometimes also, parents fail to understand the generation of today....they too were born and brought up in a different country with a different set of values and ideals...the generation growing up in the West..again face pressures of a different kind, eastern/western mixture of values etc etc..they want to be able to make certain decisions in life for themselves...whereas our parents have had alot of parental influence in theirs.
Are they happy to welcome someone thats different to them, whether its the colour, customs and culture that makes any difference to them..what he believes in etc etc...have you spoken to them about him??
Plz think all this through....in anyones world...love is everything, and without that.you cannot have a good marriage.
Good luck
xx
2007-10-18 06:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by London_Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different cultures/backgrounds make a relationship interesting. But, you need to be happy so decide what situation will make that happen. Hopefully, your family will not disown you and respect your wishes because marriage is a lifelong commitment.
2007-10-17 16:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very difficult decision, I had the same problem with my daughter 24 years ago when she wanted to be with someone from a different culture, I was dead against it and at the time if I could have broken them up I would have, however, I let things run their course and they have been together for 24 years with 3 beautiful children, unfortunately if you are asian your parents will have very very strong views.
2007-10-17 19:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will suggest you to take time to understand any guys. i also did same mistake may be i was lost in lust. But after getting marriage, everything change. No romance, life become boring but five finger is not same. you should take any step with extra care. good luck
2007-10-18 00:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by Green 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what makes you feel happy. Do you want to have an arranged marriage?
2007-10-17 16:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by foodieness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think its best. If you think your happiness is with your boyfriend, stay with him. Your parents will accept him sooner or later.
2007-10-17 16:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by MM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart.
2007-10-17 16:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋