Why do you suppose so many marriages end in divorce?

Question

don't the vows mean anything? if they actually followed the vows..

Answer 1

People get married with unrealistic expectations of what "marriage" means. When they find out it actually takes a lot of work, they aren't ready for it, most likely because of immaturity. We have grown to become an impatient, insatiable society, in which nothing is ever good enough, nothing ever comes quickly enough, and we throw away things before we ever knew we had them. No one is willing to "work" for anything anymore, and instead, expect things to be handed to them on a platter. Instead of changing themselves, everyone ELSE is supposed to change. Most people treat strangers more politely than their loved ones. There is very little patience, tolerance, understanding, effort, moral values, etc. left in the world today. Instead of appreciating what we have, people instead want what they can't have. Maybe...if people just took a second, to be grateful for the other person, and remember WHY they fell in love with their spouse in the first place, and think about what it would be like if they were gone tomorrow forever...they might re-think divorce.
Of course....there are exceptions to the rule; (i.e. abusive relationships), but just in general, I'm speaking.

Answer 2

Most marriages that end in divorce do so, because the people that enter those marriages look at the wedding as a destination. Marriage is a journey that requires dedication and a willingness to work together to make it work. Some marriages fail because one or both spouses will never be satisfied no matter what.. they always have an eye out for the next best thing, and treat the opposite sex like the flavor of the week... if divorce were a little harder to obtain, it wouldn't change the adultery and domestic violence... I would say 90% of divorced couples would tell you God was not involved in their marriage after taking their vows in front of him.

Answer 3

I think that we are not truly taught about the real problems ups and downs of marriage. As little girls we have play weddings and grow up waiting for Mr. perfect to come, sweep us off our feet and live happily ever after. Once we get into the marriage and all the glitz and glam of the wedding is gone real life kicks in and we do not know how to deal with the issues that marriage presents. I was 27 and my husband 31 and we at that age were clueless about what we were embarking upon. I want to honor my vows at the same time, I am losing myself as a person, I am depressed stressed out and angry my dream is now a real life nightmare and I do not know any other way solve it except divorce. No one told me how to cope when your husband becomes a habitual liar or what to do when his or her choices bring detriment upon your family. I think many find themselves in the same predicament. If I had known marriage was this hard and could hurt this much I would have never ever gotten married. I think if people stop glamorizing marriage and get real about the realities of what it entails many would not get married or at least would think more before making a commitment that could bind them to someone forever biblically

Answer 4

Because , it appears that the vows are a mere formality and there is not enough thought by those who verbalize them , to understand the significant of what they have vowed. There is not a partnership, entered into by the many men and wife's , and many tend to view themselves as being still single and are not willing to work together as a team to rectify problems as they come up. Therefore, with out this and a lack of respect , marriage As it was meant to be, is doomed before the it's starts.

Answer 5

There are as many reasons for divorce as there are couples who divorce. Some have money issues, some don't know one another well enough when they get married and wind up wondering WHY they married that person. Some divorce due to abuse, verbal, emotional, physical. Sometimes a move will do it, one partner needs to move because of a job while the other one doesn't want to move. Children, one partner wants children the other doesn't. Living with inlaws can end a marriage. Differences in expectations dealing with the marriage. It's not just one particular thing.

Answer 6

That's a good question!

People do not know each other - they do not always take time to do so - sex gets in the way - from this time on - people no longer invest in knowing each other - they get blinded because of the physical.

God is the author of love - unless we love Him, receive His love, we have no true sincere and unconditional love to offer.

People get together - "complele" each other .... but also lean on each other - try to change each other - This cannot work!

Many people think that marriage is the answer to many problems - answer to love (which too many times is lust any way)
Marriage is not easy - it's a 24 hr job. It's to give more than to receive - it's to forget self for the other - looking for the good in the person and let little details - non-sense be swept away - and not to pick it up.
Love grows - it does not happen all of a sudden ... if it does .... it's called lust ... it therefore cannot last.

Answer 7

This is a THROW WAY society. If your TV breaks, BUY A NEW ONE. If your radio breaks, BUY A NEW ONE. Instead of fixing things, we throw them away. The same thing happens with marriages. If people spent as much time and energy on the MARRIAGE as they did on the WEDDING, marriages would last longer.
(married over 38 years)

Answer 8

First off it depends on the people who get married and some go into it with the feeling they can run and do any and everything they want to do without regards for others. My ex-husband used to be that way. His fourth wife buried him. So I kept the kids and raised them myself. He drank and I got beat up several times and then got tired of it and said go away and stay away. His only thing he loved was booze. So whatever the reason some people have to get away from bad things. And people.

Answer 9

Who know? So many people come from disfunctional families these days that they don't know how a marriage is supposed to look like and run into trouble. My best guess anyway? What do you think?

Answer 10

many reasons, lack of communication is a big one. But I think in our selfish fast food instant pleasure society, people have become lazy and their values have weakened due to popular culture. People just aren't willing to seriously commit themselves anymore.