Fact One: Boyfriend is MISERABLE when his 17 year old is mad at him and makes me her "bestest pal" and is OK when she's mad at me and he's her "bestest friend ever"
I think today may have been the last straw, I left her a note on the frige asking her not to eat my lunches for work, and she left me one in return (a not nice one) and taped a Midol to it.
Shes NEVER home for me to let her know what is in there for my lunch, so how else but a note am I supposed to tell her?
So today,while visting his sister he told her that I left her a note with a Midol taped to it!!!!
I can't take the flip flopping anymore! He says that he's told her that she needs to try to get along with me, but I'm tired of her treating me like crap, and then never apologizing, and expecting me to be nice to her!
2007-10-17 15:59:26 · 9 answers · asked by screaminginside75 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The problems all started when they moved into my home, she was a "problem" and he needed help, she's now pregnant, and got pregnant on purpose so that she could "get emancipated and move out" (she wrote this on her MySpace page) yet, she's still living here, and things are just getting worse. I love my boyfriend, and I care about his daughter, but I won't take the disrespect anymore. We argue because she is UNABLE to care for herself, and I am genuinely worried about her baby, but he won't get her any help before she ends up hurting the baby. We've been together for 5 years, long before his daughters mother dropped her off for a summer visit, and vanished off the face of the earth, and frankly, at this point, I don't blame her!!
Thank You Everyone, I have some tough choices to make!
2007-10-18 06:29:49 · update #1
You know the answer in your heart. Your boyfriend is not willing to be a parent, and he is allowing his 17 year old child to be disrespectful to you. I would find a place of my own. He is not going to change, and you deserve better!
Good luck!
2007-10-17 16:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by fire4511 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Obviously she has zero respect for you. Her age definately has an influence, but where is her father? You should sit him down and discuss this with him. Be nice but let him know that you cannot deal with such disrespect but make sure you are not disrespecting her the same. What you can also do is since she is never at home for you to talk to her take everything that is important to her from her room. When she gets home and sees her things gone she will come to you. Try and be as nice as possible and explain to her that you will respect her and give her her possessions back as soon as she starts to show you the respect you deserve.
If this does not work not sure what to tell you. Good Luck
2007-10-18 12:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I work with teens all day every day, and when I go down to their level, wait.. I DON'T.
That's the problem.
If she keeps eating your lunches.. start eating lunch out, or bring it in to work, pick it up on the way there.
Take the issue away from the daughter and she won't be able to use that as a tool to piss you off and act like a dumb***.
Keep taking away her opportunities to mess things up for you, pretend like it doesn't bother you, don't let her know she reached you, and perhaps something will change.
If you find that nothing is working, think to yourself what you can handle or not, how long will she be in the house, whatever it is, and you may have to just cut your losses and move on.
Best Wishes.
2007-10-17 23:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all you have to choose the hills you want to die on meaning that only deal with the very serious stuff and I don't see this as serious (you must admit she has a good sense of humour!). Whatever you want for your lunch put into a lunch sack before putting it in the fridge or label the container so you won't need the note. Tell her you are needing respect (never mind about the apology - it wouldn't be sincere anyway!).
2007-10-17 23:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would have laughed at it. I would leave the notes and the midol up there. I would write LOL next to it.
Sometimes, you have to fight fire with fire. Since she is not your daughter, then it is okay to act like a teenager back to her. Give her a taste of her own medicine. Mirror her.
or
Just totally ignore. Don't let anything she does bother you at all. Be totally apathetic to her. Keep your lunches at work or get a mini fridge to keep in your room and lock it up. Won't be much longer til she leaves the nest anyway.
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OH! wait... you're not married to him? Oh heck yeah, I would have left a LONG time ago.
2007-10-17 23:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would move, or ask them to move. disrespect is not a good thing to live with.
2007-10-17 23:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by Linn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she is being a ***** and he is allowing it....
get rid of them both and have a happy life with a normal man instead of this jack *** and his nasty daughter.
2007-10-17 23:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by KRIS 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't be able to handle that disrespect in my own home.
2007-10-17 23:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by paula t. 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
stop the drama and go if you feel like it.
2007-10-17 23:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by Effu 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋