okay, so im friends with this guy. I guess you could say we're turning into more of friends with benefits..because we like each other. I have no idea how anyone would know this, but he was going to come over to my house and hang out or w/e. i didnt tell ANYONE that, but like a few days later jon said like 10 ppl came up to him and asked "are you going to screw sam" and he was like no, thats not true?? (which is good he said that, because we dont want to look like whores) why do people concern themselves with others bunsiness?cant guys and girls just be freinds without being talked about? But, my question is, How can i get people to stop asking and thinkin that we are ganna have sex? and How would they even come up with the idea that we were?
2007-10-17 15:55:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People are always going to spread rumors because they lack any other form of entertianment and the need to feel like they know everything that is happening. The best thing you could probably do is just to keep telling them the same thing. Let them know that they need to find someone else to bother with their crap. It may not stop quickly but they will eventually get bored if you don't give up any info and they probably started talking because they saw the two of you acting like you did have feelings for each other. This could have been in a number of behavoirs that you two may never had reliazed your were doing.
2007-10-17 16:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One bit of context: how much of their entertainment comes from movies, TV shows, magazines, etc. that are all about who's hooking up with whom? If they look at the headlines in the tabloids at the supermarket, they might get the idea that "Is Tom Cruise still sharing a bed with Katie" is a hot topic, and a few years ago Congress held a full-detail investigation of whether Bill Clinton got to third base with Monica Lewinski. So unless you move to somewhere with a completely different culture, some place that young adults have no interest in sex, then people are gonna wonder, and some will assume and others will ask.
A better answer than lying is "Gentlemen don't tell". If he says that when the truth is yes, and says that when the truth is no, then that's good boundaries. If he, or you, blush or stammer or spill hot juicy details when asked, then people will enjoy that and keep asking.
If people's respect or trust in you, is based on a false idea of who you are and what you do, then how far can you really count on that respect and trust? If there's anyone who can tell the difference between "Sam's got something goin' on with Jon" vs. "Sam will do anything with anyone who asks", then those are the people whose respect and trust matter the most. (And that is a big, big difference.)
2007-10-17 17:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Riley37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this has happend to me once before. It was a rumor that I had slept with half of the student body..which I didnt. I didnt sleep with anyone. After a while people get other gossip to talk about and they forget about what you did or didnt do.
Eventually they will get over the fact that you have a friend with benefits...there are prolly tons of people that do it. People gossip to gossip because they have nothing else better to do that make your life miserable. The thing is..not letting it get to you. If people know who you are and know what kind of person you are then someone will put a stop to the rumors by saying its not true. Dont argue with people it only adds fule to the fire and you dont want that. Just simply say that its not true and change the subject or walk away.
Since I was a member of the schools newspaper staff..I simply wrote about skanks, sluts and man whores and the people that gossiped got a new subject to talk about. So in the end everything worked out. Oh and dont take my idea about writing about skanks...at my school there were a lot of them and well many of them didnt like that I exposed them to the whole student body.
You shouldnt worry about what people think about you, it only matters what you think of yourself.
2007-10-17 16:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by *Emily*Loves*To*Smile* 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason these people spread rumors about every one is they have so little self esteem it makes them feel better to pull every one one ells down, they are the lowest of the low, they cause misery to a lot of people, and they are never happy them selves, they usually get their come upance in the finnish, so don't worry about them, Its a good idea to go out with some other guy and be noticed so that every one can see you have some one ells and not the other one.
2016-05-23 06:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have really boring lives and need to live vicariously through others. Unfortunately there's not a whole lot you can do. If you start to 'date' in public, there will still be questions, but you can feel free to tell them to go to hell without arousing more suspicion you're doing the hippity dippity.
2007-10-17 16:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you deny it the more they will talk about it. Just ignore it. You & Jon might think of something to say like, "No way, her boobs are too small for me." or "No way, he's too fat for me." So you each know that the other doesn't mean it, but just saying it to kill the rumors.
2007-10-17 16:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They think that you are hiding something from them so they get jealous and angry. If you come out and tell everyone that you like him, or you guys are going out, then it wouldn't be a be a problem if he came to your house. You would just say he's my boyfriend.
2007-10-17 15:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya know one of my friends posted this on myspace, it said "sex is like air, its no big deal unless you dont get any"
thats a perfect way to describe this world, its a game to most people especially boys around high school age and its just really sad.
2007-10-17 16:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u cant u just have to ignore those people and they probably got the idea from seeing you talking to him and someone immature started saying that and when one person says something it spreads quick
2007-10-17 15:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by *TiFfAnY*<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing, you are doing what youre not suppose to be doing.
Maybe if you didnt have your "friends with benefits" going on, you wouldnt be in this mess...
You wear your morals like loose clothing
2007-10-17 16:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by Nilo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋