We have been married for 5 years and known each other for over ten, since high school. We have been through every thing you name it we have done it. We have a beautiful daughter, no damage done. She wants to be alone all the time and the sex is a drag. She is not cheating (hint hint) because I know where she is all the time(hinthint)? I have tried catching her, because I don't know what else there could be holding us back from making this work> HELP!<
2007-10-17 14:44:23 · 10 answers · asked by xander20042000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends if you can or not. Does she want to save her family? Many times, partners just get bored, lack of communication may also be a factor, and trust me; you DO NOT know where she is at all times unless you follow her wherever she goes 24/7, so she might still be cheating.
You should go to marriage counseling, if she agrees, and try to find out if she wants out or wants to make it work. If she does want to make it work, then talk to her about the changes she would like to have made in the relationship, LISTEN and then talk about your wants, try to compromise and get a balance medium of both your interests
2007-10-17 15:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Xander,
If the counseling does not work then I would suggest that you and she begin a Bible Study with a group of nearby Non-Denominational Christians. My wife and I have been married for 32 years. We have three children and one grandchild. We have been Christians for over twenty years and we could not be any happier than we are today. She is the most wonderful woman that I have ever met and GOD is at the center of our relationship. I would be glad to assist you in finding a local Bible Study Group if you are unable to do so. Have a great week.
Thanks,
Eds
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2007-10-17 15:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several reasons why your wife may be acting more distant. Perhaps she is facing increased stress at work, her health could be ill, or perhaps she feels unsatisfied with her life for one reason or another. Regardless, the solution is a bit more complicated than what can be explained on yahoo answers. I highly suggest that you both try couples counseling, or, if you do not feel comfortable with counseling, a Life Coach could be an excellent option for both of you to discover what the problem is and solve it. With Life Coaching, you and your wife can achieve success and happiness!
2007-10-17 15:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to both want it to work, it can't be one sided. Oh! by the way I thought I knew where my soon to be ex was all the time, boy was I wrong he had been having an affair for over a year I had no idea, anything was going on. We had been married for 30 years.
2007-10-17 14:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask yo try marriage counseling, its important to at least give it a try before throwing in the towel. Sounds like you are willing to address the problem at least, now find someone to help you make a plan to work on the problem.
Good luck, don't make this about someone else to get your needs filled or you will regret it forever I promise.
2007-10-21 14:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by itsjust me123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dropping hints and actually TALK to her
2007-10-17 17:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try family counseling
2007-10-17 14:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My guess would be your inability to communicate that she is of value to you. Marital counseling will help you.
2007-10-17 14:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the hint hint.
2007-10-17 14:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by Rainwalker 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get a girl friend on the side.
2007-10-17 14:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by Effu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋