My girlfriend always talks about sex.?

Question

This may sound weird my gf of 11 month always talks about sex with me. She brings it up and makes comments about how sexy I am, and how much she wants me and compliments me all the time about how good I am in bed etc. But some way or another all or most of our convos we talk sex. She says "oh baby i want you right now" and sometimes im just not that into it and i have to tell her something sexy back so i dont disappoint her but I think she talks about it way too much for me.

Sometimes I just want to talk about why I love her, and appreciate her, say sweet and nice things. BUt she tells me she loves talking about sex because she loves to be with me, that she loves how I make her feel, and how we just are together. BUt its always about sex and at times its like "come on can we talk about something else?"

But i dont want to be mean to her or make her feel bad that I dont appreciate her and love her. Its just if she loves me I dont want it to be experssed through sex or sexual terms

Answer 1

Do you have anything in common besides sex? If not, I'd move on and find someone who was on the same page as me for what I want for a relationship. I know I want to be reassured at times that my bf is attracted to me, but if all he talked about was sex, I dump him.

Answer 2

And just exactly how do you feel about men talking about sex? Do you talk about it with your male friends and you get turned on? If so...then dude, you might be gay! Sounds to me like you are her first sexual partner and you guys are under the legal age. I hope you guys are, because it's jail time if either one of you is over 18. What I suggest you do, is to use the excuse that women often use on us men..."not now, I'm tired" and that will get you a nice massage and some sleep time. Just don't do it often because she will think that you are doing something behind her back. Or you can just come out tell her that you don't like the sex anymore...tell her that she bores you. Sometimes being gentle with them isn't a good thing. Wish I had your problems, and I wish you not get laid by her any more so you can miss the wonderful feeling of sex.

Answer 3

You are a credit to your gender, assuming you are male! People always assume sex is #1 (and #2, and #3...and on and on) on a man's mind, and you show it just isn't always so!

She is either highly sexual or is, most likely, just saying what she thinks you want to hear. Have you tried initiating a non-sexual conversation? Tell her the other things you listed above. Tell her how much YOU appreciate her OUTSIDE of the bedroom. Maybe even ask her to tell you things she loves about you that do NOT include sex.

It's hard because to address it straight on ("Can we talk about something ELSE?") might crush her already (potentially) insecure psyche and she might just lock up or get overly defensive. Definitely not the way you want to go!

It sounds like leading by gentle example may be the best way. Tell her the non-sexual things you love about her and maybe return a sexual comment with a, "What else do you love about me? Cuz I sure love.....about you!"

Good luck with things!!!

Answer 4

I think this issue is very common. Just remember that keeping communication lines open is the most important thing in a relationship. Do you think she focuses on sex because she thinks you want her to? Maybe you should sit down and have a conversation with her. Is there more depth to your relationship than just sex?
I have a friend who is like your girlfriend. She wants sex all the time, and has recently stopped having sex with her partner for the time being. They just want to have a break to see how they get along without sex for a while. I guess to make sure that the relationship is more than just physical.

Answer 5

well try and look at the bright side first.Most girls are shy about talking about sex because of the 'I don't wanna seem like a whore complex'.However a few do one of the girls I used to sit with at lunch used to always talk about masturbating.It just means that there not afraid to have sex but it could just also mean that she is trying to manipulate you with sex like touching you a certain way whenever she wants something.Or just really wants to show you how much she cares about you, she might just want you to like her.Next time she brings it up just say 'lets talk about this, or lets do this instead.' Try telling her how mch you appreciate her before she starts.
Hope this helped!

Answer 6

Through sex, two can create love. It is a total surrender of each. The mind cannot be in a whorl of chatter. When lovers are looking into each other’s eyes, no words are necessary. Talking about sex abusively is the need for self gratification.

Answer 7

I think u have to tell her in a nice way,so that u dun suffer in silence.Both parties must enjoy the topic being discusses.Why r u being so hard in yourself.

Explain to her that u really love her alot and u do appreciate all the "hot"topic she brings up ,but u need a break too and try to divert the topic to something more interesting(something u likes too)

BEST WISHES.

Answer 8

wow....... n here i am, thinking most guys think, care n want is sex!! but ur question helped me to change my mind. if i was her i would definitly not talk a lot about sex n i would take the time to listen to ur emotions n how u feel because that's something really important for a relationship to grow n continue..... soooooooooooo............ i dont know why your gf is being like that she probably thinks you're really very extremely hot so she craves lust a LOT. but i think there should be a limit.. soo... like.. sit down n talk to her, SERIOUSLY, tell her what's bothering you n how you would appreciate it if she could talk about something else n care to listen to you. if she understands, good, if she doesn't then............... i dont know. but i respect the way you think and feel. keep it up!! ur what i call a true gentlemen.

Answer 9

Try to talk with this girl, and explain to her that while you're glad she likes being with you and things like that, you'd like to talk about other aspects of your relaitionship from time to time. Be honest but polite. If she won't listen and insists that she just wants to talk about sex, it might be because that's the only thing she likes about your relationship, which is a big red flag. Remember, if she's only interested in sex, it might be a sign that the relationship won't work out.

Answer 10

sounds like you both are on different levels of your relationship and you need to talk with her about it. To you your relationship is more about the feeling of love and being loved, where as hers is more based on sex and the feeling that sex does for her. A relationship based on sex is not a bad thing if both persons are ok with this but it's obviously not the case here. Talk to her about it.