My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and until recently I have not been the subject of his ex's severe hatred towards my boyfriend. They have been divorced for three and a half years-mutual decision (but more so hers). There is no contact, I haven't said anything negative about her in front of their sons, haven't done ANYTHING. Now she is voicing her opinion of me to their sons and using the court system any way shape or form to get back at my boyfriend. I am divorced and never even thought for a second about acting the way she is.
So, why go after someone who is not causing or creating any drama in your life?
2007-10-17 14:14:35 · 10 answers · asked by ba374 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have the same situation. Have been divorced, have moved on do not contact my ex unless it has to do with our son. I have a life with my current boyfriend, who is divorced for 1 year now, separated for two. And his ex-wife is trying to make our lives miserable (court visits and all). As the previous person wrote she is unhappy with her life and probably has not made the best decisions since divorcing your boyfriend. (my boyfriend's ex is the same). She probably tried to get her life together with a partner and has not been successful and seeing that her ex (you boyfriend) has moved on, is happy and settled with you; infuriates her with anger and envy. You and me are in the same boat... lets hope things get better for all the women in our shoes... and that God gives us the patience and strength to keep our families and what we have worked for intact from these unstable exes.
2007-10-17 14:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be starting to resent the relationship you have with HER children. Like if they go home saying things about how nice you were or how much they like you. Also if she thinks her ex and you are getting closer (like marriage in the future) she might feel like she will have no more control over him. Even though you say there is no contact, there has to be some, they have kids together, so there is contact even if you don't know about it. And maybe you boyfriend has told her how close the two of you have become. Which no EX wants to here. Don't worry about it. When her son's say something to you about it just tell them the truth but keep it nice. They will know. As far as the courts go you just have to play by the rules. Sooner or later the judge will get tired of the games, and he will let her know. So keep doing what your doing, and hang in there. She will give up when she relizes she is not going to run you off, which is what it sounds like she is trying to do. Good luck!
2007-10-17 21:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Lorrie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and her ex-husband met while he was still married to her and she feels you caused their divorce or even if you weren't an "item" before they divorced, but knew each other, then, she probably feels threatened by you. If she's not happy with her own life, hasn't found anyone to share her life with, is bitter, resentful, etc., etc., she'll try to go after you. It's very sad how unhappy people tend to dislike other people's happiness. No need to talk bad about her or "defend" yourself. It's better to just ignore her and show -with your actions- that you're a good woman and someone who deserves respect. People will see the TRUE you and whatever she says about you will only affect her at the end. Maybe you could try to set her up with a friend or an acquaintance of yours...see if they hit it off, maybe that'll take her off your back.
2007-10-17 22:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just answered your own question. Don't waste your time together with him, fudeing with her, that what she wants she is not over him. Also know that they look better when then are with someone good and doing good. Continue to be happy ingore her silly behavior. Someone has to be the adult it's obvious she not, putting her son in the mix to cause a huge mess. So continue to be smart and you will keep what she wants back. don't feed into her.
2007-10-17 21:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by yellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I is to hurt him not you. Be as nice as you can. Kill her with kindness! That's what I did. It got to the point where she worked out in the same gym as I did. ( 13 years later). We would talk small talk but not really be friends. She could not act out in front of the other woman there and they all thought it was so nice that we could be so civil. ( if they only knew). It is not fair to you with kids being involved. The boyfriend will have to deal with that part.
2007-10-17 21:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a great question , i have the same problem with my hubbys ex wife and their daughter, im looking forward to seeing these responses and soulutions.
2007-10-17 21:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ஐDanielleஐ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is unhappy with her life and believes if it weren't for u she would be back in his life. she feels as if she competes with u, she sees u as being happy and for filled while she is not. she sees u as the enemy who is keeping her from what she wants.
2007-10-17 21:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's bored and unhappy. She has nothing better to do with her time than to make your life miserable.
2007-10-17 21:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she's angry and you are an easy target. Keep to the high road.
2007-10-17 21:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you split them up? Did he leave her for you?
Otherwise... it's just a Territorial thing.
2007-10-17 21:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋