my boyfriend wants me to have a baby. i am 23 but not married. we are in a really serious relationship but he said that he doesnt like my family. I know that shouldnt matter to much if we want to start a family but i am close with my brother and sister (not my mother so much). So i love him and he loves me but should we be geting pregant?
2007-10-17 14:01:48 · 19 answers · asked by rosen2011 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
NOT UNTIL HE MARRIES YOU! TRUST ME! 37 WEEKS PREGGERS AND HE WON'T EVEN CONSIDER ANYTHING!
2007-10-17 14:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Mommy♥ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No not at all.
And if he does not like your family, he's not caring if you are close to your brother or sister or not.
You are inviting a whole lot of trailer trash drama if you decide to get pregnant with this guy. You are inviting the same if not more so if you stay with him.
And on another note, you're only 23! I really do not recommend you having a child and not being able to experience what life has to offer you. There will be time for that later on and if boyfriend can't see that and wants to use you for his lil breeding machine (which he is) than he is not worth having you to begin with.
Also, he may want you pregnant so his fears of another guy having you will cease. Which is kind of immature but than again discussing pregnancy when you both are not married, and up of all unstable, is immature to begin with as well.
Good Luck!
2007-10-17 21:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by loridia311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had kinda the same situation and I have ur age. First you need to talk to him, tell him that you love him and you're ready to make your life with him but, your family is important to you and you did't choose the way your family is. Tell him about your feelings for him and your family. Try to make both sides be in peace. If you really love him and want to have a baby go ahead, It's the most wonderful experience, but It also carries a lot of responsibilities you did't have before you'll whole world will change. If youre having a baby with him try to make sure he's the person you'll spend the rest or ur life with. Talk to him.
2007-10-17 21:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by mar g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest marriage first and then talking to him. Because if he doesn't like your brother and sister now he will probably have big issues when it comes time for decisions about your little one. Like god mother/ god father, or anything else involving them. Even if you don't get married just make sure that you are ready. If you are hesitant then I would say no. Just because once you do it you can't go back. That baby is there forever regardless of anything. Good luck
2007-10-17 21:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to ask yourself.....if this is the person that you can raise a child with despite the fact that he doesn't like the people you are closest to. Sharing a human life with another person is quite a long and committed experience and it doesn't always work out. Is it fair to bring a child into that? Just really think about it and soul search to make sure it is what is right for you both. If it is....go for it.....if you have even the slightest doubt, than there is your answer. good luck!
2007-10-17 21:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy of Two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, if you have to ask the question, you aren't ready. It's your body and don't feel things will be fixed by having a baby. You need to have toal commitment on both sides before you bring another life into the world. Babies aren't a symbol of love, they are an 18 year commitment. Is your relationship solid enough to stand this?
2007-10-17 21:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by wilsonmatthewf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby ties you two together through the child. If you two aren't committed enough to get married, why on earth would you want to have a baby together? And if either of you is thinking you don't want the commitment of marriage, do consider that having a child together does commit you to each other.
2007-10-17 21:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by adoptive mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless he wants to marry you. If he's having trouble with your family, you need to figure out why. Is it them or him? Can it be resolved? You are talking about bringing another very innocent, very needy individual into this world, and you should not take this situation lightly, without looking at the big picture that does include your family as well as his, and your relationship. If he wants a baby, why doesn't he want to commit to marriage with you? That raises flags to me.
2007-10-17 21:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Leopardlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be wary of any guy that was proposing a baby before he proposes marriage. If you are in a serious relationship with him, he should at least be attempting to get along with your family. He doesn't have to love them, but he should be able to get along with him. How would life be if your partner couldn't get through a simple dinner with the members of your family? I would want to see more effort and more commitment before having a baby with this guy.
2007-10-17 21:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by J D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no do not get pregnant (intentionally) before you get married. things can get very complicated if you and your boy were to break up.
if this guy loves you and wants a family with you then him showing commitment to marriage is your real sign.
just think about it with common sense, so what if he doesnt like your family, its about you and him, not anyone else.
if he cant commit his life to you then what makes you think he is gonna stick around when the baby comes and things get harder?
2007-10-17 21:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by LuckyMama06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 23 also with a 22 month old son and I'm married to my highschool sweetheart. Please wait until you are married before you try to get pregnant. It is alot easier that way!
2007-10-17 21:06:09 · answer #11 · answered by Racheal B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋