i am a male and remember getting molested by a woman when i was about 4. she used to fondle my testicles and touch my penis. i believe it may have been my mom but i'm not sure. what probably happened? im 14 and have been thinking about this for days...its painful.
2007-10-17 13:51:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
i am not a teenager with an overactive imagination! i remember someone masturbating me, literally, i was anywhere from 4-6. i remember it was front of a gymnasium in a car
2007-10-17 15:41:12 · update #1
Dylan G, go to hell! you're only making it worse and i really hope you meet a slow, unpleasant, extremely painful death soon
2007-10-17 15:42:29 · update #2
You need to seek professional help. You do not know for sure what happened or who it may have been. By seeing a professional you should be able to clear up the memories and learn best how to handle the information/situation. See if there is a crisis center or support hot line in your community. Or with out telling your parents why, ask if you can see a counselor. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-10-17 14:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by emtd65 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is unlikely to be you rmother.. you would know if it was her and you would probably have other memories beyond this age. Pedophiles do not repent and they cant be cured... so I suggest to you that it was likely to be someone else.
You may not have found the experience traumatic at the time, just a little awkward.. but I think your memories are best left uncertain. It doesn't do you any good to dwell on that memory.
I suggest you try to find your earliest memories.. the nicest ones.. and as soon as you start to think about being fondled replace that thought with one of your more pleasant thoughts.
The pain of those thoughts doesn't go away, so you need to choose a satisfactory device to deal with it.. look forward, mate... ignore it... you have your whole life ahead of you filled with opportunity.
EDIT:
My thoughts... avoid Social workers - you don't need therapy - or hipnosis or to "re-live it"... I think these methods are really only effective immediately following the event!
2007-10-17 21:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Icy Gazpacho 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Often when a person is abused their brain blocks out the painful memories and then years later the brain starts to release their memories in the form of flashbacks.
I would suggest you talk to someone in confidence or find the number of a local helpline and talk to someone if only to clear everything in your head.
2007-10-17 20:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by Temperance in flight 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you want a second professional (they are required by law) talk to a favorite school teacher or the school nurse. This is a tough one.
2007-10-17 21:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by sparkles 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a teenager with an overactive imagination.
You could just remembering your mom bathing you and you want to make more out of it than it is
2007-10-17 21:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by xjoizey 7 · 0⤊ 6⤋
If it was your mom gross. Someone else then that's fine you are cooler then your friends.
2007-10-18 17:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no one can really fully answer this sorry.
2007-10-17 21:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
im really sorry to hear that well get your mind of it by playing sports im sure everything is going to be fine.
2007-10-17 20:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Thats Hot 1 · 0⤊ 7⤋